Joba Adewumi's Blog

Picture Quotes 5-10

Sun, 03 May 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Inspiration and the Grand Plan

Sat, 11 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT

When It has been a while I have written I always feel like I have lost the ability to write until it starts coming back to me, I don’t think the writing framework I have been using works anymore.
All my articles have always been written in one sitting, a 30 minutes sprint and I let it all out; that was why I always used the framework of “I only write when I need to or when it is overflowing and I need to release.”
I don’t want to write that way anymore, I want to write because the world needs to know, learn and also because there’s really not a lot of time.
So I write the baseline, then edit and revisit every few hours in the span of a few days until it is complete, and that’s how I’m gonna do it.
I have been writing my thoughts for the past 3 years, over 50 articles on my thoughts about life.
At the beginning of every year I always have this feeling that I have lost it, I always struggle to get back to my writing form, this year takes the award for the longest downtime.
Anytime I want to write I always wait for inspiration to strike, it’s either going to hit me like a truck carrying a huge load of cement or not at all.
This is what I have been struggling with for the past few years, when to write and when to not.
So for the past few days I have been keeping the big picture in my mind, telling myself I need to write, I need to write.
Woke up this morning and set my music playlist and fired on.
I think there is a lesson for procrastination here;
>If you want to work on a task that requires a huge deal of cognitive load, keep it in mind at all times, keep reminding yourself, nag yourself, then immediately you wake up just attack it. And that’s how you get shit done!
I opened notes a few days ago and I saw two notes, wish list, things I have always wanted to get myself for the longest of times.
I scroll through and realise that I literally have everything there.
When I realised I didn’t even know how to feel; happiness, relief, a sense of accomplishment? Nothing, a sense of growth and gratitude, yes I felt that.
But there are two things that stand out here, a note I have not checked since 2024 and could not remember the contents and was still able to accomplish everything in it.
The second thing that stood out to me was I had no desire to write another ‘Things I need to get’ note.
The journey in-between wishing for my deepest desires and getting them from so much hard work and difficulty has left me a bit pale, I won’t say bruised because the journey was one of growth with no ounce of regret but the journey does rewire you in a way.
It’s the same infamous journey of making money, when you are younger you have dreams to buy this and buy that but as you get on that journey things start to make sense.
Also the journey is a bit different for everyone and people learn different things, popular example; some people learn that money is not enough for happiness then people and meaningful work added to balance it up, while some people just believe that all you need in life is money and more money but, oftentimes, the latter always come to the mindset of the former, sometimes, too late.
The Universe always has your best interest at heart, God in this case, things may seem bleak at times, difficult, stressful, but that’s the grand plan, it’s part of the experience.
So whatever you find yourself doing, hold on to it, be delusional.
Ola and I have a thing where we motivate ourselves. It started as “WE WILL SURVIVE,” now it’s “WE WILL WIN/WE WILL BALL” and that mindset shift changes everything. You are not just on this earth trying to survive, you are actively creating a life, actively pursuing that dream of yours.
>Trust the plan and the process, hold out long enough, be courageous, trust yourself, trust your ideas, believe that everything will make sense in the end because they ultimately will.

Picture Quotes 1-5

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Ponder Piece 5

Sat, 04 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Ponder Piece 4

Sat, 14 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Ballads of The Advancing Man

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Lessons from 2025

This is the third time i am rewriting the beginning of this ballad, I was finding it hard to construct this. I realized that i wasn’t being true to myself, I had a plan for something grand, I have been seeing people draft end of the year reviews and all and I was feeling compelled, the basic human desire to feel among.
What value would my words hold if they did not come from a place of truth, I wanted to make it a write-up of short points, how you should do this and abstain from this but I am not going that route anymore, I am going to share my personal experiences and the lessons would ensue from them.
I find it hard to recall anything from this year because I don’t think I did a lot, at least that is what i believe, I don’t go back to old pictures, hardly read old write-ups and cringe at old podcasts so i really can’t know.
I worked with a client for the first 6 months of the year, sure I learned some technologies and grew a bit but nothing really came out of it, a blip in the radar type of experience.
Very toxic guy, didn’t know what he wanted, tried to exploit and gaslight me at every means and eventually ran with my money, now I really have nothing to show for it apart from the experience.
Sometimes you embark on journeys, days, weeks, months at a time and you arrive back with no material thing to show for such time than your experience of it, and often times, that’s all that matters.
What I learned from the endeavor has shaped me in so many ways, I learned that:
You don’t know what you want until you know what you don’t want.
I am a man of passion, tell me what I have not done, meme creation, rapping, video editing, photography and whatnot. They come and they go. You try to juggle them all, drop one for the other, do both, none at all, give up, come back again to give it another shot and I have really grown from it, before ponder piece I have created three variations of quotes.
Curious me was very sad when I realized that you really cannot do everything, you can only be great in a select few and the others you’ll be average but like I said earlier, you have to try them all out first before you figure out what you stick with.
The biggest lesson this year was from the Zenith Bank Hackathon Ola and I attended, it’s a very sensitive topic for me but i’ll be vulnerable about it.
We commuted to Victoria Island four days in a row, trying to build a product and win the cash prize and get a change to be in an accelerator for the product.
I was fairly confident in our product and our presentation but at the end of the day we did not win.
The day before the demo we went round to connect with every single participant, and I was thinking we would win based on the shitty assessment that I made.
In life there are people that would be way better than you, create better stuff than you, be smarter than you.
I remember after the announcement of the winners and reality had set in, I looked among the crowd and one of our facilitators gave me a silent nod of approval, like the one Alfred gave Bruce in Batman.
And in that moment everything made sense, there was something I understood that I can’t place in words. One of the judges also said this quote, and that was the inspiration for this picture.
That day NF dropped his EP, fear. As Ola and i walked out of the building, overshadowed by the beautiful architecture that inspires, tells you boldly that you were made for more.
Ola made a remark and everywhere was blurry, my eyes were teary and I let it flow, all the dreams on what could be is just gone, just like that. He assured me that it was going to be alright, i’ll never forget.
Cried on the ride home, playing the EP in a loop, got to Berger by 8pm, cried on my walk to my dad’s office. When he saw me he asked how it was, as we were walking to car I was quiet and I started crying again, he comforted me and explained the reality of life.
Failure is just painful knowledge.
In the grand scheme it’s just more of a redirection and redirection is good.
The reason you don’t have something at the moment is because you have not become the person that is capable of having it.
The reason why you don’t have that job is because you have not grown into the person capable of handling it, same reason you don’t have that money or that gadget or whatever you want.
If you grow into the person that is meant to have it, you would get it in the most stress free way, so the lesson in this is to keep growing.
The true measure of intelligence is if you get what you want out of life.
Identify the steps that must be taken to achieve what you want and tick it off. Let the work speak for itself, you don’t narrate over a classic painting, it speaks it’s own language.
There is no summary to this, no resolution, no moral compass, no right, no wrong, no five step process to becoming the best person ever.
You must find the meaning of this ballad within you, yourself, The Advancing Man.

Ego death and The Cost of Success

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Too much pressure, i feel so much pressure. Some days i sit with a blank mind but my chest feels so tight. I am bothered by something i am not aware of, being pursued by something i can’t see, afraid of something that cannot hurt me.
I have been telling myself that i need to write but i couldn’t sit with it, am i really that busy or just making excuses? Now i have waited so long that i don’t know what to write about anymore, i used to write about what i feel but i don’t think i feel anything anymore.
I wake up and focus on the work but is there value in this dedication or am i just a worker like everyone else? what makes me different from the next Engineer, the next person?
Have i lost the passion to create, to inspire? Have i lost my relevancy? I used to pride myself in writing only when required but now i force myself.
I have been thinking myself into an ego death, what is right, what is wrong, who is right, who is wrong, what should you use your life for, how should you use it?
I pondered on this for well over 5 years in search of the definitive answer that would eliminate all my dilly dallying and let me know what is required but i could not find one.
Someone cut you off in traffic and your pissed but the person is rushing to a meeting, you are right and the person is wrong, you cut someone off in traffic for a medical emergency, the person you cut off is pissed, who is right, who is wrong?
I have been looking at the problem the wrong way, nothing is wrong or right, it just is. Now i find it hard to pass judgement or call something wrong because what is right?
Now i just focus on my actions and try to do what’s right to the best of my abilities and that’s all that matters.
This year was a lot, i’ll try to write something for the specific lessons i learned but i’ll tell you this, that person you see and idolize has paid a hidden cost to be where they are.
I have seen the cost of success in it’s raw, bare form, and it’s not fun. So much pain, so much tears, so much headache, loneliness, abstinence from things you love the most.
You must do so much work for results you won’t see immediately, but upfront at a later time if you even have the endurance to thread the needle. Only guarantee is your self belief, ability to show up everyday and being so relentless that becoming unsuccessful is virtually impossible, it’s just a matter of when.
What do you want, how bad do you want it and how much are you willing to suffer for it?

We All Feel This Way

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 00:00:00 GMT

This might be very unusual for me to do but i think i need to share this to move forward.
I always try to shield my emotions or how i really feel in my work, i don’t like to share too much details because i am shy and afraid of judgement.
I think about what i am creating, especially my podcast; when i say i don’t listen to it, you might think i do not like my voice or something but that’s not it, it’s because i hate the quality and i just want to release it and get it over with.
I have conflicting feelings about the work i am doing.
The only thing that has kept me coming back is the existential need to create and sometimes, for the most part, i overcome the fear and hit publish for the world to enjoy but for me to never visit again.
I have always locked it up within but i believe for me to grow i must let this go, i must let go of the safety ropes and dangle off the ledge, not enough to slip and fall but ever so slightly that i test the limits of my imagination, never afraid to share the innermost depths of my thoughts anymore.
Anytime i am feeling overwhelmed by life and i feel like i am wasting time or not doing enough, i open Apple Podcasts, scroll through all the stuff i have created and just stare.
It gives me some peace of mind that cannot be enveloped with words, makes me feel like i have been doing something with my life, i guess that is another reason why i create, it makes me feel something, it is the only therapy i need.
The best creations are the ones that share the innermost parts of the creator, the pain, the sacrifice, the experience and hopefully, i share more of me.
My name is Oluwajoba Adewumi and i am a creator.

Ponder Piece 3

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 00:00:00 GMT

(Podcast) My 21st Birthday

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 00:00:00 GMT

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Ponder Piece 2

Sun, 06 Apr 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Life is all about people

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 00:00:00 GMT

This year has not been my most creative year, this me comparing my output this year from the same time period last year. I never want to rush what I have to say, if I have nothing to say, I keep quiet and observe. On a usual day most of my content is derved from my personal experiences, sometimes from books or things I learn elsewhere. And this year has been so hectic with work and school, I hardly find time to reflect on my experiences, to find something to share.
I will try my best to change that but I learned something today that I had to share, it unlocked that existential feeling within me and I knew i now had something to say.
The day started regular, I overslept 8 alarms, yes, 8 alarms. I left home for school to fulfil my student obligations but I want to spare you all the details and share the underlying lessons.
Your perspective of life is very different from others, you are dealing inth money problems when another person is down bad with love problems. Both experiences are valid and one is not more important than the other, in the context of life experiences.
There's this thought that lingers as I write it this, you can have 20 years of life experience in 2 years. Life always passes by for each of us, some people hold on to every frame of the movie but others put it on 2x, trying to skip to the good part. When one person sees an hour of knowledge, you see 30 minutes.
I have always been the kind of guy to look in-between the lines, even during some of the most mundane and meaningless tasks of life, I always try to develop some sort of theory to the grand idea of existense and I have uncovered a large piece of it.

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT PEOPLE

I always knew this, somewhere at the back of my mind but I never really understood it. Never judge a person's character based on what they have told you, narratives that a thousand mouths have modified and twisted across months and years of back chatter. You can only assess a man's character after you have been in a room and discussed with them, of course to know deeper truths you must have been in certain situations with them, deals that involve money and other sorts.
Sometimes when you're younger you think you can achieve things alone but a very good idea that Timi passed on to me is that friends are very important.
Some days they are all you have even after the world has failed you. Yes family is important but there are friends that could be considered family.
It is only when the end is near that certain ideas come into perspective, I was about to blame myself for not knowing the grand idea before but all my other past experiences gave way for this one.
I mean we all know that school isn't a school without the students and a church isnt one without the Congregation but the main idea is that life is always going to be bleak and lonely without people.
Money is nice but who do you spend it on and with? people. You have crazy memories and experiences from your past but what makes them all come to life? people.
I think I need to go out more, relate with more people, i think that's really what I like, might not be everytime but once in a while. I like days that you're so occupied you literally forget that you have a phone, you're so engulfed in reality. Maybe that was what inspired me today, relating with others and making me understand what life is all about, People.

Ponder Piece 1

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Stories About My Fish

Sat, 15 Mar 2025 00:00:00 GMT

You reach this resolve of content, we believe that this is a sign, that the job you're working on is the right one or the person you are with is pure vibes but this is just one layer of multiple layers of purpose.
Purpose is hardly something that you know and understand out of the gate, it's multiple layers of knowledge that gets deeper and deeper the more you unravel.
I relate it to my journey a lot, especially in regard to creating content.
I have failed and reinvented the content throughout the journey of entering deeper and deeper levels of consciousness and you must do the same, never never be comfortable on the first layer of purpose.
You must have create, break and recreate your ideologies.

I walked to our Aquarium on a fateful morning and was greeted by a fish, i glanced at it lurking around the fake vegetation we have at the top of the glass tank.
I stared closer and it was belly to the side, the fish was dead. I took the fish out and gave it a proper funeral, buried in the soil of our flower garden.
Hence its death giving life a new.
LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT MY FISH
My fish believed he was special, always shoaling with the others, he never deviated from routine (he thought he had one) but it was all nature programming, eat when fed, take a dump when needed, mate when necessary.
He always thought he was different & unique. it's hard to say if all these attributes were true because we never had a late night talk about your life session, considering that fishes don't talk.
It didn't really matter if it were true or not, it helped him survive and he probably performed his duties to the best of his abilities.
I always sat down at the front of the aquarium to observe some fish brownian motion, we have two species of fish In the tank(that I do not recall the names of).
We only have one of the first specie and the second we have about 20, they started off as 5 but have multiplied over the past 2 years(i feel like a grandparent already).
During these these observations everything feels regular, the fishes move randomly, most times together.
In the aquarium they call believe they stand for something or believe that they are unique. Sad part about this is that over my two years of independent observation, I cannot uniquely identify that fish, it made no waves (pun intended), never rebelled, never deviated from regular fish activities and therefore it was never stood out.
I want you to think about it, relate it to how we humans behave.
There are people that do everything they tell them, follow the system, get a stable job, live a stable life, never deviate from the program.
That is how they go, they cannot be uniquely identified at large, only in their closely knitted circle of friends and impact reach.
If you want to be extraordinary you must do extraordinary things.
You must be different.

(Podcast) It's a Short Life, Be Active in Your Own Rescue

Sat, 22 Feb 2025 00:00:00 GMT

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How could I conform?

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 00:00:00 GMT

I stared at the blank sheet of paper for almost two hours, zoning in and out. Where do I start, I asked myself. I haven't written anything since December 3rd, same way I haven't recorded any piece of content, podcast or video since September.
My mind started to dry up, my energy depleting, it was something that could not be explained. All creative life force slipped away. The only silver lining was that I had the motivation to clear my drafts, did I eventually clear it? not really.
I started to feel that school pressure, final year, takes a toll on your mental health. When I look back at it, I could've created regardless but the experience was valuable.
Like I wrote in my earlier blog post, my year was relatively good, I created so much content last year (I would've said more than my other years combined but I'm too lazy to calculate).
There was something I didn't achieve last year but it got pushed to my face, or should I say I allowed social media to push it to my face.
You know what I did? I acted like every ingrate in my position will act, threw all my achievements away for one shiny object. And you know what I did next? I made my new years resolution the pursuit of that object.
That was literally the only thing I planned for 2025, I said screw the content, y'all will survive without me. I was just another blip in the radar, forgotten as soon as I was discovered.
It didn't take long, like all delusional people, you only need to give them time to discover their lack of contact with reality.
It took me a few discussions with my father, a few hours calculated in the span of a month staring at inanimate objects and some deep thinking to understand that I was looking at the whole situation short-term.
We always talk about how we need our parents but we never reverse the discussion to realize that our parents need us too.
The same way I came to the conclusion that I actually need to create content because I'm hollow without it.
I really thought I could just disappear and act like everybody else, make a couple of bucks, buy a few toys, travel to some countries, take care of the fam, get everything I've always wanted, put my children on the right path with a hefty inheritance and kick the bucket like a champ. Now don't get me wrong, it's a good life, a quiet one, but unfortunately that's not me.
I have ideas that need to be shared, experimented on, written, studied.
I can't just sit back and not share, it doesn't work for me.
I can't believe I wanted to conform, be like everybody else. What a betrayal to my greatness, hopes, dreams and this burning curiosity God has placed within me.
What would I leave behind if I stay complacent?
Now to be fair I have been a bit busy but I could've also made time so that's just an excuse.
What I really need is that unparalleled sense of urgency, the will to ponder and create.
During my downtime I realized that I have been missing something, unwavering belief in myself, before I had been winging it, now? it's a do or die affair.
Now that I have cleared months worth of thoughts from my mind, I can finally start the year. Don't worry I'll make up for my January absence, I might also slow down the blog posts, save some for the book. Let me know what you guys think about that.
I also want to talk about loss and legacy but I'll leave that one for a podcast episode.
I apologize for my absence, I don't want to be like that certain artist that his fans beg him to drop music.
You must follow your heart but you must also eat and be comfortable, don't be a starving artist. Remind yourself that anything you want to do or achieve can be done, you just have to start and make time for it.
Thanks for reading, I'll see you in the next one.

Poem - Expectations

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 00:00:00 GMT

My first poem, thoughts?

What if i don’t Succeed?

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I attended a Mental Health event last week Thursday, during Rotimi Ashley-Dejo’s speech, he discussed his story about how everything in his life was going great but he struggled with depression and he didn’t want anyone to know.
Mental illness is the kind of thing that could get you laughed on, outed or if you have a career, out of your job.
He eventually sought help and shared his story, after his retirement he was willing to dedicate the rest of his life to Mental Health Awareness.
During his speech i found myself tearing up, it felt like i could relate to him in a way, does this say something about me?
He ended his speech with telling us that we are also advocates for Mental Health Awareness after learning about it.
I am not afraid to be an advocate for what no one wants to talk about. I used to think i’ve been depressed before but “Clinical Depression” is 2 weeks of constant sadness. I might fully understand depression but i have been sad for extended periods of time and i know how it feels to not have anyone to talk to, you’re not alone.
For me, this is my form of sharing how i feel and you read it without complaints. Thank you for reading my thoughts and if you ever want to share something, feel free to message. I’m always happen to listen.
I decided to ask the speaker about something that troubles me. A lot of people have some form of anxiety but that’s not the case for me, i only have one fear and sometimes it dictates my actions. I always ask myself, “What if i don’t succeed?” He said that we usually fear what does not exist and he was right.
We suffer more in imagination than reality, as Seneca said.
I experienced a devastating event after this and i was able to resolve it that same day. The way God or in this context, the universe comes to your aid is amazing.
I want you to start December and your life with this mindset.
You’re not alone, anything you’re feeling, a million people have felt it and are feeling it the same way you are.
Do not fear anything, even death.
You’ll always be fine as long as you’re doing the right thing, you would end up where you ought to.
If there’s anything i’ve learned this second half of the year, it’s that you got to do you.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing, as long as you’re focused on your craft. That’s the only thing that should occupy your mind, your craft and your craft alone.
He ended our conversation by saying, “Any decision you make in life should be from heart and mind.”
So no matter the outside chatter, you just do you.

The Men That Don’t Fit In

Sat, 16 Nov 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I haven’t created any video or podcast since September, although I have written The feeling of importance, i was in a deep rot. So unstable and stressed. l used to struggle with getting left behind. I do compare myself to my tech buddies, for context i am a Software Engineer, that is what i started with before i realized i wanted to share ideas and started the podcast. Since i started creating content it has been a roller coaster ride, trying to balance. Sometimes i tell myself to drop the content to focus on tech but i am determined to keep the dream alive. I compare my Software engineering career to another Software engineer’s, i tell myself that i am not where i want to be, i feel bad, tell myself that content is a distraction. i end up locking in for a week before i get back to my senses.
These days i have decided that content is here to stay. From September till today it’s just been blank, i feel nothing, i think about nothing. No ideas, only that i need to clear my drafts. Maybe that’s it, clearing old work to make way for new stuff.
I looked back, “it’s November,” i told myself, “What have i accomplished?” My analytical mind trying to make inferences. I compare my tech career to someone’s, not giving myself some slack, trying to remind myself that i do so much other than programming.

I encountered a video two weeks ago by Dry Creek Wrangler School on Youtube, The men that don’t fit in. He discussed the idea of being invited to talk on a podcast but never really fitting in; “I do podcasts but i’ll never fit in, i’m a Software Engineer but i’ll never fit in, i write but i’ll never fit in.” This was the discourse i had in my head when i finished watching the video. A new profound understanding overcame me. A man that fits in has a destination, a concrete “I want to get a job at Google,” or “I want to make X amount of money.” But a man that does not fit in has no destination because he’ll never fit in when he gets there.
You see, it’s not about the destination for these individuals but the journey. It’s not about taking a million steps in two months but having the opportunity to take a few steps everyday, enjoying the simple and delicate strides.
I have been on an ignorance is bliss vibe since the realization, i don’t know what anyone is doing and i don’t know anything that is happening unless it directly affects me.
There is a certain mental clarity that comes with it. I am not aware or anyone’s accomplishments and triumphs, not that i’m jealous, i am simply ignorant about it.
These few months have helped me realize certain things, i used to be okay with solitude but i love connecting with people more, hearing ideas and stories.
This new understanding of myself would reflect in my content moving forward.
This is certainly not the last you’ll see of me this year, at least not across all creative channels. I hope you learned something from this short story of mine, i am excited for the new chapter. I’m sure you are too.

Dreams, Discomfort & Limits

Sun, 03 Nov 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I want to offload some of my random thoughts. Firstly i realized that nobody really cares about you like you think you do, but it's not even about your wellbeing, it's about your dreams.
We all have things we want to achieve, build and create, we also understand that the journey to self actualization is not straightforward. You have to do jobs you don't want to get to the jobs you want, it might not even be something you don't want but just a means to an end. The lack of concern for others really shows when you're dealing with money.
Startup or company, nobody cares about your personal "dream" hustle as long as you work on their dream hustle, but as long as they have the money and you don't there's no escape. It is now up to you to protect that dream, keep it alive, suck it up and do the work. This is necessary for the journey.
You must protect your mind, keep your dream in mind, all day, everyday. Visualize it, daydream about it like you're living that life already. People are going to come and cut you short, limit your beliefs, tell you "it can't be done," sometimes it might even be your current circumstances. 100 years ago, Iphone 6 would've been something
"theoretical," an idea that if you told people they would say that you're "out of touch with reality." Nobody might've even thought about cause it couldn't be fathomed.
Look around you, everything that has been built today came from people who had dreams, protected them and worked on them.
We are afraid, my father told me that as long as there is life, there is hope and the worst thing is death. I used to think it too but how can the worst thing be death if you wouldn't even know that you're dead? So what are we afraid of? We have all lived long enough to know that problems come and go. People are complaining about the economy but who knows if in the next 10 years people might say these were the good old days?
You must

The Feeling of Importance is Dangerous

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Sometimes you are blank, clueless, uncertain. I really don’t think you need to figure it out at once, the journey is supposed to be a slow one, mixing stuff together, trying and failing—as long as you don’t give up.
I’ve been through this feeling of importance spiral. At the beginning i believed that it was important that you seek that feeling before you do certain things. But i was wrong, just like dads get up in the morning and do the work no matter how they feel.

It’s not about feeling important, it’s responsibility.

One of the main facets of philosophy is critical thinking and it works with the absence of emotions.
Emotions are brief feelings in brief moments.
How can you say you hate someone yesterday, hear their side of the story and say you love them the next day.
Just as we feel like we are not important, we must do what is required of us.
Emphasis on “feel,” because whatever you do is needed and required in the world.
Doesn’t matter if you get feedback from it or not, whether it gets 10 views or a million.
You must show up and do the important work.
Look at Elon Musk, shows up for Tesla event, posts a million tweets about SpaceX recent venture.
He’s getting praised for the work that the engineers did.
How do you think they feel after months of sleepless nights, the sacrifices, joy and pain.
They get no credit at all or minimal credit but “Elon the businessman” takes all the credit.
Keep in mind, Elon could’ve worked on these projects but trust me he didn’t pull the most weight.
Now this isn’t some Elon hate, not even the point of the message.
The people that would appreciate these feats the most are people that understand the sacrifice it took and respect everyone that contributed.
But that is the point, how would you know that someone half across the world is “feeling your shit?”
How many people like your work, websites, writings, arts, podcasts and other stuff that you’ll never know. And that is it, it’s not about how you feel.
If you have work to do you do the work.
So this is a wake up call, for me and for you to leave the feeling of importance and do the important work.
To see beyond what you feel at the moment and think about the possibilities of what could be, who your work could impact.

good stories sell themselves

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Do you have that song that you like so much but nobody has heard of it? The underdog song that you just jam on occasions. Same thing goes for that movie or Youtube video that blew up so crazy without promotion.
Both of these exist and why i bring up these analogies is because sometimes your good story would sell itself but it won’t blow up to mass adoption and sometimes it’s all over the place.
I want you to measure them the same, look at it from the product creation stance;
You create a good product for a large audience = mass adoption, you create a good product for a smaller audience = less adoption.
What i want you to focus on here is not the adoption rate itself but just the fact that it gets adopted to begin with. People are impacted by it either way. But the main idea is that the good story sold itself.
I’ve been looking at the landscape and observing the way people are doing things, i see that the success that we all envy or wish for ourselves isn't a one year or two year thing but a journey that spans decades, ten, twenty, thirty years to reach the level that you romanticize.
You have all these great books that have been turned into films and series like harry potter or game of thrones just to name a few. These books wouldn't have been turned to movies with half bakes stories, they were written over a period of time, matured and eventually had to sell themselves.
I could say that i want to write book, spend a year of my life curating it and release it half baked, or i could wait a couple of years, when i have accumulated a story.
Right now i want to attempt a silent build for some months, i do spend a lot of energy on the publicity side of things and that energy could be compounded into creating better stories.
I look at the metrics sometimes and i don't really spot a difference so it shouldn't be a problem, i know i shouldn't be looking at the metrics but it's informative sometimes.
Thank you all for always reading my letters, listening to my podcasts or viewing my pictures or videos. I could create this stuff and keep it but i really do it for people that would come across it and they learn something from it. That's the main joy, not only consuming the content but applying them in your everyday life.
Special thanks to Chikamso, she’s always excited to check my stuff out, literally the first to read or listen to my work and it really keeps me motivated, you have a special place in my heart. Shoutout to Thank-God and Emmanuel for all their opinions and support and love to my brothers at the Zanga, no namedropping so no preferences but bless up regardless.
Thank you so much to the silent readers and listeners, i do it for you too.
Writing this at 01:10 AM on a Sunday night, i’ll see you in another letter. Cheers.

focus is a mindset

Sat, 21 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i was finding it hard to focus this past week, jumping from socials to socials, distraction to distraction.
getting to the end of the week and you decide to get serious, it hit me that i was relying on feeling like i need to focus, i didn’t realize earlier.
focus is a mindset.
took me a while to get my shit together but that’s what i understood, focusing on word you need to do is a frame of mind.
it’s you cutting out the daydreaming and looking at your life critically.
what i did was looked at all the amazing stuff i have the opportunity to create and the people that i impact from my work.
it was a profound realization, enough to make you lock in.
just like i wrote about productivity, it’s not about working 8 hours straight but having short bursts of productive moments throughout the day.
i woke up today and turned on my laptop, chilled for a bit, pulled up the podcast i wanted to edit, while doing that i was working on the artwork, took three short breaks in-between this period, did some programming, took a break, did some extracurricular activities and i’m back to write this. i didn’t do 8 hours work but i did accomplish all my tasks for the day.
sometimes during breaks i relax, i try not to doom-scroll so i play games, nothing stressful, killing a few people on Call of Duty replenishes my energy ;)
remember it’s not about feeling like you need to focus but the frame of mind you need to be in.
visualize your goals and destination, it helps.

i struggle with the feeling of importance

Sun, 15 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT

the story starts with a man inspired by a podcast, it’s not the podcast itself that speaks to him but what it represents. he told himself, “his podcast is a means to an end, i realize mine is too.”
from there he decides that change is required, he wants an artwork like the one he saw on the podcast cover art.
he created his, dubbed it “the surfing man.”
what it means is unbeknownst to him at the moment, but it’s meaning would reveal itself in due time.
he then decides to go anonymous, feeling that fame should be a byproduct of the work and not something that should be actively pursued. using the surfing man has his picture, he circulates across his socials.
the story doesn’t end here, after his newfound “animosity,” he decides to disappear.
how can he ghost when he also told us to resist the urge?
he has this feeling that he has nothing more to say to the world anymore, what use is he?
it took some days of spiraling to understand this feeling, he read it in a book.
the important question was asked, why do people do what they do?
everyone yearns for the feeling of importance, that’s how civilization was built, full of passion projects of individuals like the one we discussed earlier, hoping to be appreciated through monuments, attributions and references.
just like Dale Carnegie wrote,

this individual we have been analyzing extensively is struggling with the “feeling of importance,” like we all do.
he drives his sense of importance from the body of work he creates, he feels like he’s doing an act of service to society and it makes him feel important in turn.
now his problem is that his sense of importance has been tied to unresolvable metrics, ones that others might deem important but he shouldn’t.
and just like that he understands the goal and what he must do again.
with the help of a few friends he understands that he is, in fact, helping society with his work.
what do you tie your feeling of importance to?
this is the short story of a man who struggled with the feeling of importance, that man is me.

protect the sanctity

Sat, 07 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT

these last few days have been nostalgic, it’s been a while since i’ve done deep coding. i’ve been thinking about bugs while doing random stuff, how cool is that!
but i discovered this only because of what i observed recently; that some things aren’t destinations but means to ends.
programming is a time consuming task and it needs mental clarity, you can’t find that multitasking or thinking about your next podcast episode or video.
you must lift one up to bury the other.
have one thing that makes you money and one thing that makes you known.
i don’t make money from my creations and for the most part it’s alright, it keeps the sanctity of them.
someone is getting paid from teaching you how to make money, there’s nothing to be learned for you are the means itself.
until i a person has financial freedom you must strive for it, also balancing what you find joy in.
this is not end of all creative pursuits but a mere understanding of balance.
i wish to go anonymous these days, before i thought fame would be nice, but before i attained it, i have come to understand the folly.
i only wish to create, to touch minds and hearts.
i wish to inspire

why do you do what you do?

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i was listening to Naval’s podcast today, i noticed that he’s not the most consistent podcaster but the information there was timeless.
it made me question myself, is my podcast a destination or a means to an end?
the reason i have a podcast is because i have something to say, the reason i write is because i have something to write.
but these aren’t destinations, they are means to ends.
i write articles like this because they’ll eventually form the underlying knowledge for a book.
the podcast was just a means to get my ideas out into the world.
it was never something that i would take as a job or something i would retire off.
you need to assess your current engagements and ask yourself the question, is this my destination or just a means to an end?

savor the moment, take it slow

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

ii’ve been feeling pressured to create, writing, videos, pictures.
even though i had removed all expectations i still feel the need to show up.
just like how i almost lost it all, there’s this feeling within me that i need to come to terms with.
feeling the pressure as usuals, i remembered a podcast episode i had recorded.
i looked at it, from the art to the content, i pondered on how much work and effort i put into the creation of such a masterpiece.
and i started to scroll, looking at all the beautiful things i have created.
and this is just the podcast alone, i haven’t even started with the write ups and damn! the amazing pictures.
we all look at people ahead of us, look at how much they have created but never see the time span of such creations.
bodies of work spanning decades, but we want to do it in a year.
from this new found understanding, i’ve started to take a careful approach on how i create stuff. embracing each and every aspect of the process, taking it all in.
we say quantity over quality for creative work.
but sometimes it’s just enjoying the quality so much that quantity sorts itself out.
enjoy every single creation, treat it like it’s special.
because it really is.

i almost lost it all

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i’ve been disordered, unclear, bewildered, muddled, disoriented lately.
i want to create, i really want to.
i started strong with the integral paradox, then it started to slow down.
i’ve been blank lately, i find it hard to focus, to ponder or think.
i always have a headache by afternoon, like my brain is tired.
why do you fail me at such a crucial time? i almost had it!
who can i vent to, that my brain no longer ponders?
i wanted to write about my addiction to power lines, i couldn’t even complete the writeup, i should’ve broken down.
i technically finished the writeup because of some compromise i had to make, just like multiple ideas in a thought, i couldn’t ponder at all.
what happens to a philosopher who can no longer philosophize?
what happens to a creator who can no longer create?
who motivates the motivator, inspires the inspirer?
i watched a video recently where Mark Manson said something about my condition.
“multitasking makes your brain tired because it’s supposed to settle on an individual task.”
it automatically hit me, i have to code two projects, sort out a podcast, sort out videos, sort out pictures, sort out quotes, create, write, research, read & write scripts, handle publicity and content strategies, have a social life and take care of myself.
of course my brain is going to crash out at 14:37.
i thought about leaving it all behind, what’s it worth?
i couldn’t sabotage myself like that so i planned some structured approach to this, hopefully it works. if it doesn’t? i’ll try again.
i started the holiday strong, and that motivation started to whither.
what happens to passion when motivations gone?
i had a structured approach for creating my content, but creativity crumbles under pressure.
i mean… isn’t it consistency that we preach? “how dare you slack jbtheinspirer?”
can’t even practice what you preach.
i then realized that to give you much receive.
how can i share knowledge when i’m not even learning?
then i realized, when last did i read a book? trust it’s been a while.
my schedule had no space for learning, just creating.
giving but not receiving.
i thought i had lost it all but here i am again, writing this.
it begs the question, why do we do what we do?
why are you trying to make money, why do you go to school, why do you sacrifice so much, why?
why am i writing this?
i used to think i didn’t make impact, focused on the numbers alone. but it’s more than just myself these days.
i didn’t just live, i learned and i created.
i wanted to quote myself but i found the full picture.
this is why i do what i do, what is your why?

my addiction to power lines

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

the idea of standing above serving all
i’ve been taking pictures of power lines lately.
now i don’t think it’s some power line fetish or so, but it’s the idea that they represent.
above our heads, close to the magnificent blue skies.
they represent something bigger than themselves.
an act of service people don’t put too much thought into. unshakable, unwavering in service.
it’s what they embody that inspires me.
i wrote this yesterday and i couldn’t complete it, but i asked myself, “not everything has to be a linear story.”
mainly motivated by James Clear’s newsletter and like what i’ve done before, multiple ideas in a thought.
sometimes you don’t have more than a few words, other times you have excess.
i have to strike the balance between being consistent and making sense too.
some days you’re blank, others you’re full of inspiration.
the main idea from this is to show up either way and do it as best as you can.
you only see what you want to see

what’s your idea of love?

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

do you believe in love? for a while, romance movies or books irked me, mainly because of their unrealistic portrayal of love.
i finally finished the last season of His Dark Materials, lovely series.
what sold me in this one was the realism and i’ll catch you up to speed on what i mean.
firstly, your lover is your friend, if you jumped the “good friends” stage then you’re going to look for that friendship elsewhere and not in your partner.
secondly, experience is what builds the relationship, the suffering and pain, the joy and brightness, being in different scenarios with that person, going through it with them.
thirdly, it’s not about what you can receive from that person, it’s what you can give.
focus on yourself, think about all the things you can improve within yourself for your current partner or your future one.
not only does it improve you as a suitable person but it also attracts real people.
lastly, all good things must come to an end. happiness forever and ever is a myth, maybe in the afterlife it’s true, but here it’s a fallacy.
“the greatest love is not the one you’re willing to die for but the one you’re willing to live for.”
sacrifices must be made, the journey and destination are both important but it’s the journey that you would make the most importance of. it’s what shapes you.
you must be open to the experiences.
when i finished the last episode, it dawned on me. so this is it, i told myself. this is the meaning of all this intricacies, it was the destination i’ve been meaning to reach for the past year, to understand what it all meant.
i passed through the 5 stages of grief for that moment, the journey was important but the destination, the resolution i came to was also equally important.
ladies can move on while entering a new relationship, for guys, it’s quite different, it’s an introspective process if you’re doing it healthy, if you’re processing that grief, it’s going to manifest in ugly ways.
hating the opposite gender, getting irked by the idea of love, trust me, i’ve been there, i’ve done that.
but when you rise above the hatred, you see the real understanding.
now my healing process is now complete.
i’ve met people that are afraid to commit because the fear of being hurt, fear of pain? pain would come regardless.
pain is required for growth, to abstain from pain is to forfeit growth.
i can now understand that it’s not what the other person “brings to the table,” but what i offer to that person.
it’s a beautiful process.
the reason why i’m so philosophical is because i make meaning of everything, i see between the lines, dissecting intricacies and patterns.
welcome the experience and remember, it’s not about what you receive, it’s about what you give.

short tips for a productive day

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

tips for a productive day

get some sleep: 7-9 hours of sleep is good, you have to be well rested for the day ahead because sleeping is, in itself, a productive way to use your time instead of chilling on socials.
have actionable goals: people say plan your day the night before and they are right, writing down your goals or tasks for the next day the night before gives you clarity and also gives you some motivation when you wake up because you have a clear direction.
start with the most important task or the easiest one: depending on your goals and tasks you want to start with the easiest/fastest to complete or the hardest so you can do light tasks for the rest of the day.
be time conscious: what really helped me during my day was remembering how much time i am spending on a task and the current time of the day, it gives you some sense of urgency and when you pick up your phone, you’re sure to drop it down on time.

lastly is to take short breaks after a burst of work, what i did was watch a movie during brunch and that gave me some motivation to cleanup the remaining of my tasks.
everything is flexible, so do what works for you.

productivity thrives with focus

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

thinking/dabbling into multiple things can hinder productivity.
as usuals, i had tasks on my todo list, and funny enough i couldn’t accomplish any.
i’m trying to look back at my day and i legitimately can’t see any reason.
i had a lot of tasks in mind and couldn’t focus on one thing.
also i can blame it on constant scrolling on social media or the fact that i didn’t get any sleep the night before.
summary of the story, it’s okay to do be multifaceted but focus on one task at a time, also limit distractions like do not disturb when you’re trying to work.
lastly sleep is quite important for focus, also have clear tasks or objectives and you’ll be fine. i’ll try it tomorrow and give you guys feedback, until then.💐

cut yourself some slack

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i had a todo list of tasks i was going to accomplish today, by 5pm i had completed nothing.
Now it’s not like i was slacking off, they were just tedious and time consuming tasks, as i’m writing this i’ve completed one and before bed i’ll complete two more.
where am i heading to with this?
sometimes you set goals or benchmarks for yourself and when you don’t achieve them you’re hard on yourself, thinking you’re not good enough or you should’ve done more.
but shit happens, and you must accept it.
things don’t work out, you’re not going to stand there sulking about it are you? nah, you get back up and you try again.
i’ll probably carryover the task to tomorrow.
there’s a limit to what you can take, mentally and physically.
at your early ages you’re supposed to test that limit, but don’t overclock it.
locking in is important but so is your sanity.
you might read this and find an excuse to slack off but just remember, you’re not doing this for me, but for yourself.
you’re the only one with a vested interest in improving yourself, i might inspire you but i don’t have a stake in your success.
go hard, but before you go home, cut yourself some slack.

it’s a lonely road

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i used to have a lot of friends when i was younger, we would chat for hours on different topics, when i look back at it, although meaningless conversations, they held their place in history.
when i started taking life seriously, no time for baseless chitchat, i even grew weary of it, i morphed into a straightforward person, only engaging in conversations i deemed important.
as i started to speak less, i started to have less friends.
i know a lot of people but i don’t think i have up to 5 close friends.
now that i ponder on it, we were never really close friends, the endless chitchat—we never really discussed the important things, just topics that would take our mind off reality.
like i said on my birthday episode, you are alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely, and it’s true.
ample time to do important things, i really do find solace in my work these days, if not for that i would, in-fact, become lonely.
but why does this all matter, if i had a million friends, what would we discuss about?
i do enjoy journeys i forego with some friends once in a while, but what are we really doing here?
what’s the point of this life? if you have a dream and a vision, what are you supposed to do with them?
are we to pursue pleasurable experiences or to explore the limits of pain?
is life a joke or something to be taken seriously?
does this all matter in the end?
we mostly do care about only ourselves, in reality nobody cares about you.
does that change the dynamics of existing?
i don’t know, i really don’t.

mindset changes with time and experience

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

remember that thing you said you’ll never do, well… look at you, doing that exact same thing.
how time heals all wounds and changes all mindsets, i always knew this, but it’s one thing to have knowledge of something and another to experience it.
when i was younger, i wanted to change the world, it wasn’t about the money, just the opportunity to open people’s minds.
when i write this now it sounds funny, childhood dreams i guess…
not like i gave up on my dreams, i just became realistic, like how money is important, emphasis on important.
i also gave up on changing people’s minds, my creations exists for people that would discover it because that is what the mind and soul needs at the moment, everything is in due time.
you might look at this as settling, trust me, it’s being realistic.
and the earlier, the better.
the money aspect i expected my mindset to change, hence why i refrained from saying too much about it on my podcast, but the changing the world dream, now that shocked me.
i grew tired of trying to convince people that life was lived better in a certain manner.
i was so passionate about it, often preaching to people.
i used to start conversations with: “what do you think about life.”
as you grow older, you start to see the world more, in all it’s beauty and ugliness, and you start to carve a path for yourself, you know how you want to live and who you want to be.
now the problem is not your lifestyle choice, but the realization that you have to do an immense amount of work to get it, it’s this stage that some people start to settle on their dreams and some people start to get realistic.
i believe that the earlier you start the process on your life, the more likely you are to be realistic than to settle.
it’s people that realize that they’ve wasted an immense amount of time doing meaningless activities that settle for what’s ahead, but they don’t go down without a fight, some resort to delusional behavior to cope with such tragedy and they even out eventually.
another thing i realized again was i had relieved myself of the pressure to conform, you might’ve been wondering why i am writing in lower caps, i think it’s cool, and for the most part i don’t care about your opinion.
younger me would be stressed about this.
right now, i’m in the do what has to be done to get what i want.
i used to hate routines but look at me now, i have a routine to make sure i get things done.
i look at all the passionate things i said on my podcast when i was 18, and i might be contradicting myself, but you know what? i don’t care, and you shouldn’t care too.
just like i wrote before this, sometimes it’s alright to watch people burn.
at the end of the day, i am going to account for my life and you would account for yours.
life would catch up to you someday, make sure it doesn’t catch you unfresh.

take a moment to feel it

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i watched Logan, again, but something stood out to me, and i think i’ve written about it before but i’m going to do it again.
the professor was talking to wolverine and he said, “this is what a home feels like, people that love you, a safe space. you should take a moment and feel it.”
i’ve been in moments where i soak up the whole experience and it really stands out to me.
we all wanna “skip to the good part,” but nobody wants to experience the “mediocre” days, university, 8am classes, suffering with friends.
it is moments like this that defines us, that we remember.
just like Dax asked, “what if our future happiness is memories of our past?”
take a moment to feel it, experience it.

the idea of composure

Sun, 21 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

i was watching The Godfather II and i was very intrigued by the level of composure of Micheal and Vito.
i thought about how we can learn this type of composure and apply to our daily lives
firstly, composure is a mindset, to be that calm, you must understand some certain realities.
being afraid of anything outside your reasoned choice is pointless and you’re always going to be fine.
it’s just like when you’re about to write exams, you’re composed because you’ve been here before, you’ve written hundreds of exams in worse situations, what makes this any different?
understanding intricacies like this help you relax, now let’s analyze the case of Micheal and why he’s so composed.
the reason why he’s so composed in this scene after being threatened and knowing his enemy wants to kill him is because he has already made plans to kill his enemy first.
so as much as composure is a mind game, it’s also strategy. you must have fail-safes for your problems. mentally or physically, you must wield your fate and control it.
what’s the last thing? figure it out yourself, and feel free to share it.

sometimes it’s okay to let people burn

Sat, 20 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I had multiple variations of this idea, all drafted in my notes.
I wanted to release them daily but this is integral thoughts, most stories i share here won’t always have definitive plots, you must embark on your own journey for meaning.
I gave someone advice recently, as i look back at it, it could’ve been my tone or my mode of phrasing, she didn’t like it too well and lashed out in fury.
I read the situation and tendered an apology.
My mind whispers, “so much for feedback.” It could’ve been my fault, I’ll never really know.
What i know? If i kept shut I could’ve avoided some insults, probably had my pride intact too.
Sometimes it’s alright to let people be.
Some people, you are bound to help, others, to observe their plight.
I read that not giving doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, and the same goes with this.
Choosing not to interfere sometimes doesn’t make you bad, it’s okay to be an observer.
Ps: learned recently that if someone gave you feedback, do not defend yourself but simply ask why. If someone tells me they don’t like my newsletter, I’ll ask them why(after insulting their poor taste ;)

Morning or Night Routines?

Fri, 19 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Most people say morning routines are the best, wake up before that hen crows, do some workout, balance on your head for five minutes to let the circulation flow… yoga, then eat half a crate of eggs to get that protein.
Some say it’s night routines, stop calling your talking stage or parter till 12, anything later than 9 is unacceptable, if she’s not comfortable with it, break up, prioritize your health.
Mark Manson believes the night routine is more important.
I believe both are equally important, we forget that life isn’t constructed in days or weeks, we made that ourselves, as we couldn’t grasp the reality, so much for copium.
Life is a single string of time, so how you sleep is how you’ll wake up and how you wake up is how you’ll sleep.
But i also believe how you start the day plays a huge role in how you’ll end it.
Waking up early is quite refreshing, even if i don’t do it often, the days i do it are actually quite nice, even though i crash out around 13-14:00, it’s quite nice.
At the end of day, do what works best for you.
My advice, when you wake up, walk around your surroundings, it helps clear your thoughts for the day ahead.

Birthdays & the integral paradox

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I was standing this evening and I realize that I haven’t written anything for a while so I thought for a bit, i realized there’s some stories I have in my mind that aren’t full blown write-ups so I had thought about it and I was like why don’t I write short articles? I consulted my thoughts, computer and man alike.
Here we are, the integral paradox.
It’s a newsletter in the newsletter, like double stacked newsletter.
Here i drop short stories or things i learn, basically my integral thoughts.
Integral thoughts are the basic of thoughts, you get to see the thought rationale behind theories.
Sometimes you’ll see it multiple times in a day, some in a week. But there would always be something. Hope you learn something.
My birthday, I’m sitting down in an empty restaurant waiting for my order, i used to dream of solitude and now i have it, I don’t regret it but sometimes you miss social interactions.
I take a look back at my last birthday, I celebrated that with my brother and the boys, when i think about it, that was a fun time.
It’s just like what i said on the podcast “My 20th Birthday,” you never know what people sacrifice to achieve certain things, here i sacrificed solitude, it really is a lonely road, a journey one must embark on alone.
So as i go home, alone, i reflect on life, as i shared my age, women start to think of you differently because you’re apparently younger than them.
For the most part, this was a calculated repercussion and i make peace with it.
Also the vision becomes clearer, I started this journey with uncertainty, i never thought that people would be so invested in the creations.
So my goal for 20 is to make everything that comes to mind, i have an idea, i execute it.
I embrace the sense of urgency, the fear of uncertainty and the brevity of life.
Do it scared.
Live life a little and embrace it, my comrade.

Resist the urge to ghost

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I’ve been feeling like I want to ghost lately, for a while it’s been lingering within me, 6-7 months.
Today I finally faced the urge, “where am I disappearing to?” I asked myself.
It made me realize that ghosting is not how it seems, as I talked about it in my podcast episode “The Realization.”
On the episode I talked about how most of our actions are pandered to people’s opinions.
I spoke to Dozie earlier about feeling sad, why do people have to announce their sadness?
Post about it or talk about it.
Sometimes when people feel sad and they share it, they don’t necessarily need you to solve their problems or issue, they just want someone to hear them out, make them feel like they aren’t alone, like someone can relate and understand the feeling.
When you know someone can understand the way you are feeling, it makes you feel better.
Same way you are more composed when you realize your friend group is as blank as you are for a test, the feeling outspreads when you realize it’s the whole class who’s as blank as you are.
That’s the basis of human interactions, relating and understanding.
It goes back to the main question, why do you need to ghost? Because if you really feel like disappearing, you would.
So why has this feeling been lingering for months within me, it was really not the ghosting, but the longing need for people to understand and relate to my struggles and strife.
The grind, the stress, the sacrifices.
Sometimes some people feel like the only way people will understand your hustle is if you disappear and reappear some other time like “bro, where have you been, it’s been a while.”
It’s sounds cliché but there’s some truth to it.
Sometimes people ghost because they need to get their shit together.
There was a time i was having a rough patch, i didn’t even think about ghosting, i just disappeared for a year.
Blank dp and all.
That was before i had something to share. If you keep premeditating it within you, then you really don’t need to ghost.
I was reading the Daily Stoic, and something really stood out to me.
I was pondering on it, people that actually push p, create the narratives of life, how many of them ghost, disappear years on end?
For me I really can’t afford to ghost when i have a lot of things to say and share, pictures, podcasts, videos.
I can’t keep them to myself, i have to share this knowledge for people that need it.
The core of The Daily Stoic are quotes from philosophers, the reason why the book was able to be created was because the writings of these philosophers lived on.
If i take beautiful pictures and never share them, who is going to see the beauty of the world? Same thing for the podcast, who is going to hear that knowledge i never shared?
Ghosting is something you would like to avoid if you have something to share, and a lot of people have something to say or share to the world.
Instead of being inspired all the time, be inspirational too.
Share your thoughts and ideas to people, let it live on.
When you look back at it or look at the world right now, everything that has been created, the books we read, films we watch, music we listen to, were from people’s ideas.
They felt something and they weren’t afraid to share it.
As stupid as it may seem, dumb as it may sound.
If you tap into the mindset that what you share is contributing to the world, to be consumed in years or centuries.
Remember that if you truly create something that you like, trust me, there are millions of people that like it too, they haven’t discovered you yet.
Keep pushing, keep creating.

There isn’t a lot of time to waste time

Thu, 16 May 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Are you taking a moment to experience it, or are you constantly looking out the window, hoping for better days? This is it, this is what you have now, are you really going to let it slip.
At this point you can realize that i write based on phases i experience, and i try to bring it all into thoughts and share.
This year has been an experience, from having doubts and feeling uncertainty to watching a man die, feeling like I’m doing too much to overthinking to observing and now this.
People make us feel like we have a lot of time but we really don’t, I’m supposed to be reading for my exams but here i am—penning away, because i feel— i know that if i don’t write this I’m going to let it go and go back to doing what everyone is doing… living like they have a lot of time.
Recently I’ve been disconnected from social media a bit, i guess the fast paced information and catching up on people’s life is not really my forte, and I’ve been embracing on my creations. Now i approach things with more urgency.
Keeping in mind that my time is limited and there is, in fact, a lot of work to be done.
Google photos shared a reminder of a picture i took 4 years ago.
Took it on a friend of mine’s phone, he’s here no more.
I have taken this energy into myself, focusing purely on my creations and my work.
No room for anything else, because in reality, nothing else matters.
Not who is winning the rap beef or what people are posting or doing. You have to believe in yourself because no one would root for you like you.
You must embrace whatever you would love to do with your life, and do it with enthusiasm and love.
What i have observed is that, that’s all there is.
Just memories of the process and the failures, the times where you risked it all and thought you wouldn’t make it. Here we are.
I always think back to a younger me, when I started thinking about the important stuff, when i started my podcast, when i started writing.
Who would’ve thought we would make it this far?
Don’t give up on what you hold dear to you, because that’s all there is.
When you see the pattern you realize, there isn’t much in this life, than experiences and memories.
That’s all you get.
That’s all you carry around and that’s all that defines you. How you can shape people’s experiences and memories by just being yourself and putting out your thoughts. I might be writing this now, 20 people might read this, but you never know how far it goes, 10 years, probably when i’m dead.
But it doesn’t matter, because this is where i stood and where i staked my claim.
This is where i took all the experiences and memories the universe has given me and shared it back. That’s as far as i can go, it is up to you to take this as face value and see what’s at stake.
As for me, I’ll keep on the good work, so you can too.
Life is truly—brief.

The Observing Man

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 00:00:00 GMT

There was a point in time when i was overthinking, overwhelmed with thoughts and perceptions.
Now, I’m just there, observing.
It’s one thing to actively make inferences about the world, make opinions.
It’s completely different when you just sit down and take in the life experiences.
What i noticed was that when you are actively looking for something, actively making inferences about multiple events, what happens when a certain phenomenon occurs, it works, short-term.
It worked for me, i was making a lot of inferences and discoveries, it was a big win for my personal development, the podcast and any other thing i was doing.
But like i said earlier it was a short-term fix, and it started to take its toll on me.
The thoughts started getting loud, i had experienced it first, back in 2021, I couldn’t sleep that night, terrible experience.
Second one happened few weeks earlier, i just couldn’t silence my mind, i had to meditate, and it actually worked.
Since then i realized, why am i using so much effort on something i could just sit back and observe.
So i took a back seat, an observing seat, let me see how it all unfolds.
Instead of actively trying to ponder, i let the experiences flow.
I discovered that it was a nicer experience, a long-term solution to a short-term fix.
Sitting down, observing and let life come to you.
You experience things, see things and you let them pass through you, but you make your own inferences out of it.
We all experience things, good or bad, but the meaning of each experience is individual.
Experiences are subjective depending on who is experiencing it and what they take from it.
So I’ve just been there, chilling, observing life and taking my own meaning.
It’s the long term solution to philosophize about life.
Experiences don’t mean you sit down all day and let it come to you.
You can seek out your own experiences by traveling, reading books, talking to people, depending on what you’re looking for.
Most people observe, some share, some don’t, i personally like to, something you could learn from.
Take in the experiences, breathe out the lessons.

Adventures of The Observing Man.

You think about other people too much

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I used to love solving problems, at the time i had little to no mental barriers.
Mental barriers are neither good nor bad, it just depends on the type of barriers you place on yourself.
You cannot be a good leader if you cannot solve problems.
The truth is, when you start the journey of self-development, there’s no going back to normalcy, that would be easily termed as ignorance.
When you know the truth, it’s hard to live with a lie, it’s eats you from the inside, consuming your soul.
Same with when you learn a skill or start doing something you love, it’s hard to stop one day and tell yourself, “i want to take a break.” And go back to doing nothing with your life.
At this point i feel there is no rest for me with the amount of things i am aware of, the knowledge i wield or the skills i possess.
How many nights do i long for deep rest and I somehow still wake up early.
Gone are the 10-12 hours sleeping days. My brain deems it fit to wake me up from my “Self induced need to sleep because i am stressed” slumber.
When you think about it, it seems like the soul yearns for one thing but the body wants another.
Who is right, who is wrong?
Let me give you some context, there was a day i paused and asked, who am i doing this for? I mean i have asked this a million times but this one was different.
I noticed i was changing profile pictures to reflect my mood. Why? For who? What was i trying to do? Let people know my plight or maintain relevancy.
I was always posting “in the kitchen,” wanted people to know what i was working on. Where is the mystery? Where’s the old ghost Joba? Lost in appraises and appreciation texts, good reviews, what was the whole idea? Wasn’t it to create things and share to the world.
But before the world i was sharing it to myself.
I have mysteriously left the equation, it was what would people gain out of this podcast, writing or video.
It wasn’t about how i was learning from the process anymore.
So i decided to take a two months break to watch the world burn, but that’s a lie. Because if I disappeared for two months, the world would be perfectly fine.
So what’s the fuzz about. This started as “Joba, you are doing cool stuff and you don’t put it out there” to “Joba you are putting too much out there, not because of impact anymore but for relevancy.”
It’s like i have come full circle.
From being a ghost to being out there, wanting to be a ghost again.
Struggling with consistency to struggling with too much consistency.
I didn’t realize this earlier because i felt it didn’t have a definitive plot.
I guess some things are supposed to be plotless.

Multiple ideas in a thought

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I think too much. That’s just it, i think. Let me rephrase it, i try to make inferences on things that, sometimes, don’t need inferences.
I had this problem, last week Tuesday, frequent headaches, the thoughts getting too loud.
I’ve only been in that situation twice, first time I couldn’t sleep, deep in tears, wallowing in my own self pity… This is literally self inflicted pain, i said.
How could it be that i cannot control my own thoughts? But what if these thoughts weren’t mine? I guess they are just thoughts, right? How can i think of killing you today, going into every detail of how I’m dismembering you and disposing your body and the next day I can’t think of a life without you?
“My intellect is my biggest gift and my biggest weakness, I must learn how to control it or it will control me.”
We’ve talked about this right? We’ve been here before! That’s what you get for being your own therapist.
I had to calm the situation on Tuesday by meditating, apparently it worked and also apparently i haven’t meditated in a while.
Who are you doing this for? The feeling of Uncertainty, The brevity of life.
I thought i was oversharing but have you seen how many newsletters end with the title and two lines in my notes? How many podcast episodes I’ve planned but haven’t recorded, hell, even the ones I’ve recorded but haven’t released.
Let’s not even start with videos, quotes, pictures?? It’s like a graveyard of ideas, waiting for the right moment to be released.
If I’m being honest, the reason some newsletters don’t see the light of day is because i don’t have anything to say on it at the moment.
If i don’t have anything to say then i shouldn’t say anything at all.
I was just being overdramatic there.
Same for the other stuff, as much as every second matters there’s an order of timing.
I wrote something before this, i guess it’s just not the time to release that.
But what I really learned during this downtime of thoughts paralyzing me is that.
“Life is basically just experiences. You experience things and you share those experiences with people in different forms. Experiences are just experiences, not enough to break you if you develop the mindset that at the end of the day, you're just an observer, passing through.”
When you think about it, everything is quite connected.
The tweets are thoughts, not long enough to make a newsletter on its own.
When you adopt the experiences mindset, the thoughts reduce drastically.
At the end of the day, I’m just here to experience things and share what I’ve learned.
I don’t need to blow my brain for the best quote when the experience could give it to me.
Experience more than you create, listen more than you speak.
Dozie asked me this question circa 2022-2023, “How do you feel knowing that you can never love someone deeply because you’re too logical?” it was something that just popped in my head when writing this.
Damn is companionship nice, building with someone, but you can also build with friends too.
We all long for that one person out of the multitude, but instead of longing, why don’t you be that person that someone would want to build with and somehow, the person would find you themselves?
Thoughts for another day. It’s way past my bedtime…
Things I’ve learned during this haziness?
Moments are moments, experiences are experiences. Read it again. Not enough to break you because you are an observer. Stay passionate, stay aware, stay hungry.
Also you can endure more than you can imagine, and remember, this journey is for people that have come before you and people coming after you.
Go hard or go home.
No competition, no comparison.
-Joba The Geographer.

Leave something behind

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 00:00:00 GMT

You notice that not all ideas are original, some are influenced by things, events, memories, people. How many things have you said or done without thinking how far it would go? You never really know.
I heard of the passing of a good friend of mine recently, I remember when we got shawarma on my birthday, 2021.
What is death for you? Just another event.
Death itself is ambiguous but what you learn from each one is subjective.
This guy was the calmest guy ever, always leaving things in a good place, no stress, no overthinking or worrying, just a dude living life in the moment.
The last time we spoke was around July 2023, i guess don’t take that long to check up on people.
Never in a million years would he think I’ll feel this way or I’ll pen something down for him, he might have been living life in his own way but he was also inspiring me to live life in my own way.
He only left memories behind but what if you didn’t, what if you left your mind possessions behind, your creations, that podcast, video series, write ups, product.
Me and a friend were discussing death and what you learn from it, i had an idea to record this conversation. It would’ve been another knowledgeable “bro to bro convo” gone down the drain of memories.
I call it Unfiltered Conversations, in memory of Joshua.
That’s what he left behind.
What would you leave behind?

The Brevity of Life

Sat, 03 Feb 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Have you ever stared death in the eyes? You can’t but it can. You can’t see it but you can feel it, lingering, in your nerves, in your heart, weighing it down.
You see the news “3 people dead, 5 people dead, 100 persons dead,” your shock is enormous for the first 2-10 people and the shock curve just levels.
You see it in the movies, read about it, probably dream about it a couple times.
But trust me, you haven’t felt the half of it.
Two steps, i was two steps away, looking at the corpse of a dead man.
For straight 5 minutes, how do you feel?
Looked from his legs, broken, dislocated, glanced further upwards as people were performing chest compressions, trying to resuscitate him.
Ring on his finger, someone’s husband, dad, dead on impact, thrown 50 steps away from the point of impact by a trailer.
Where do your goals and aspirations go when you die?
My leg feels heavy, palms shaking, I think i’m stepping on sand, stained with his blood.
He must’ve done this journey a thousand times, why today? Why when i’m in the car?
Is God trying to tell me he still loves me and i should focus on what matters or did the devil miss that glorious opportunity to finish me once and for all? Shit, bro wants to make impact? LOL!
People die everyday, I’m quite aware of that. It’s quite different when it’s unexpected, doing something you routinely do everyday.
Especially when you’ve just interacted with this person minutes before they see the light.
What’s the cost of a human life?
What’s the cost of all accumulated experiences?
Have you ever lost something so valuable in a second?
I mean—no one plans to die. But… what if we do?
When death has flashed before you, priorities automatically change.
Everyone was acting like it was a normal thing, maybe that’s why i was there.
To understand that things happen for reasons. And this was supposed to remind me that life is more than all the pointless activities that we partake in.
I attended the event, people showing up for an appearance, ladies all dolled up. Had to take the pictures but i was observing, how much of this pretense would matter in the end?
What’s laziness and procrastination when you’ve stared death in the eyes?
What’s grudges and arguments when you’re 2 degrees from total annihilation?
What’s competition and envy when your waist wouldn’t be connected to your legs?
Focus on what matters.
There’s so much you learn from someone that experience wouldn’t teach you x2. And this is the kind of thing you don’t want to experience.
I guess it is a memory and trauma i must carry along on my journey.
So that when I’m loosing focus i remember, dead men don’t tell tales.

Who are you doing this for?

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I recently had an epiphany, you may be wondering… how many epiphanies do i have in a month? As much as i need to develop my character.
I felt crippled, i couldn’t edit my own videos, couldn’t even look at it. As a creator you would eventually reach this crossroad. The view indisputable. The mind wanders yet the thought lingers. Unless you ask yourself the glooming question, imbalance is certain. Who are you doing this for?
Certainly all those endless writings and podcasts and videos aren’t for the views or validation… are they? I personally thought they mattered, I mean your type of content would decide that. Or your motive.
Why do you wake up everyday? Why do you keep checking your socials everyday? Why are you grinding so hard?! Who are you doing this for?
Don’t tell me you’re making money to impress that girl? Prove your “haters” wrong?
How about the job you’re doing or the degree you’re studying? For you or for your parents?
We might end up in a predicament but we dictate what we do in the situation.
One thing you figure out early in life or one thing I figured out was at the end of the day, it’s just you and you.
You are your best friend and your worst enemy.
I asked myself the question, who am I doing this for?
I realized that i was always doing it for myself, but i also saw that a little bit of me was doing it for the views and likes. Because in my head more views = more reach = more impact and more likes = important content.
But you can’t measure impact by views. How many videos have you watched that had a lasting impression on you?
In what ever you are doing, i want you to do it for you. Do it because you like it and do it the way you envision it.
The most beautiful creations are the most original.
I know my content is impacting you one way or another because i am doing it for myself. And what i want to do is inspire people.
He creates, she creates, i create, you create.
But who are you doing this for?

The Feeling of Uncertainty

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMT

Who would you be in 5 years? Don’t know? 10 years? Nahh, let’s reduce it. Who would you be by December? Not sure? Not sure for me too.
These are questions I subconsciously ask myself on a daily basis because for me, failure isn’t an option.
And with that goal comes pressure and anxiety.
Then uncertainty shows up. Last time I created content was Friday, (feels like ages) i developed this crippling fear.
What if I don’t succeed i asked.
It was because i started going big on creating content, so now 100% of my day isn’t coding(but i still code everyday).
And in my mind i was afraid of where this journey would take me.
I talked to Hammed, Founder of SwiftXR(my unofficial mentor by force🫶🏿).
And he really gave me insight and guidance.
It wouldn’t be fair sharing my knowledge without acknowledging the source of it.
In reality life is uncertain and unpredictable for everyone.
I would’ve name dropped celebrities but i want you to look within.
10 years ago did you think you would be here? Did you even have the slightest idea? 10 years ago i was afraid of going to boarding house for my JSS1.
10 years later i have done amazing stuff. I didn’t get here with a predetermined plan, it just happened and so did it happen for you too.
Although you must develop the mindset.
Take the leap, do it anyway.
What do you have to loose? Make mistakes and learn from them.
Don’t let your fear destroy you.
If I didn’t pick up Sololearn that faithful afternoon, who would i be today? I didn’t know i would end up here.
I experienced this, looked for solution and shared it with you so that you might as well derive your own solution and share it with another person.
Lately I’ve been releasing Dubai pictures, ones i took in 2022 for a while.
And as usual my mind playing tricks with me asking me if I’ll ever take a good picture again.
Funny enough as i was writing this i was able to take some thought-evoking shots.
I’ll share it with you and you’ll be the judge.
Life is one big uncertain game. And for the most part, that’s the fun in it.
The fact that you can start as a pawn, play by the rules and end up a queen.
Oh the brevity of life! At the end of the day, you’ll always be fine.
And like Hammed asked, what’s the worst that could happen?

20 Lessons from 2023

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMT

I’ve always been indifferent about the new year, maybe there’s something i know that everyone else doesn’t, something like… it’s just another day. But yeah we has humans stick to constructs so Happy New Year!
I wanted to write something yesterday, Discipline Creates Inspiration. Apparently i wasn’t disciplined enough to get inspiration.
Another year! Gosh I’m getting old. 19 feels really old. It can only be God.
2023 was amazing, got my first job, met amazing people and discovered who i really was.
I’ll leave the details to God and whoever remembers. The lessons? Now that’s something I’ll love to share.

Don’t be afraid to take risks, anything that is risky and unsure? 2024 na me go dey there!
Don’t let anyone pressure you. Keep calm and do your thing at your own pace.
Your happiness is first. Do things because you want to do and because it would make you happy. Don’t do it for other people
Be objective! Think. Stop being emotional and entitled. If you want something, you take it.
You find out pretty quick that life is more than just appearances.
Put yourself out there. I was an introvert, people look at me now and be arguing with me that i wasn’t. Gosh, i was afraid of speaking up, even afraid of girls! You realize that everything you’re so afraid of isn’t real.
Stop overthinking, it’s pointless. Wouldn’t help, never helped.
Adjust to pain, embrace it. Hug hardships. Reminds me of my garri days😂 (0-0-0.5) For the best!
Failure? Never be afraid of that. Take her on a date and spoil her. Because she would teach you things that success wouldn’t.
Anytime you feel like giving up? Just know you’re close
Be a learner. Learn, forget, re-learn.
Self-improvement is the beautiful journey you must go through. Beautiful connections because people just like your character! I noticed that i’m a very likable person. Everyone just seems to like me and i get along with everyone. Years of self mastery and years to go!
Don’t take things too personal. Joke a little. Life is not that deep.
There is always an option. Always!
Remember the times you feel like you’re in deep shit? Look at you in 2024. In this life you’ll always be fine. No matter the predicament.
Self control is important. Women would be the end of you!! Money too.
Understand the objective. I can’t forget when people used to tell me that i was too serious 14-18. Girls and guys. Thank God i never folded and remained true to myself. Never compromise.
Love yourself. Embrace your flaws and insecurities. Look at how you can improve every day. Keep it pushing.
Only listen to constructive opinions. Any other thing is noise. Tell yourself the truth because no one will!
Focus on yourself. Pure focus till your dying days. Never forget. You don’t want to look back and see that you didn’t try your best.

As dynamic as life is, there some set of rules you need to follow. I personally didn’t set goals for the new year but I’ll name them cause this is different.

Inspire more people
Never close up, keep creating
No competition, no comparisons
1% better everyday

I want you to think about this closely. We underestimate how much we can achieve if we just believe we can. How big would you dream if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Think about it.

The Difference Between You And The Person At The Top

Sun, 31 Dec 2023 00:00:00 GMT

You see people posting their latest gigs, meeting this person, taking pictures with that person, working with that celebrity.
You may feel jealous—envious—like that should be you, or you may feel motivated—ready to take on life’s challenges to get there.
It’s only human.
One of the things you must understand if you want to become successful is you are your own worst enemy—and your own best friend.
The war you’ve been fighting has always been with yourself, when you take a step back and observe objectively you would realize.
There would always be another opportunity, you don’t need the opportunity your friend has; there would always be another job opening, there would always be jobs paying high cash.
You might be wondering—how do i get those opportunities Joba? Now when you look at the most successful people, they are not usually the best, there are better Software Engineers than Sam Altman, better innovators than Elon, better investors than Warren.
But they stand out, why? Because they own their craft.
This was something i learned from Daniel Emah, Founder of TechDreal.
If you take a look at my handle, “jbtheinspirer” i post stuff not only for self-marketing but to also inspire you that if i can do it, so can you.
I did a writing event this year, keep in mind that I’ve only been writing for a year. Why did they reach out to me? Because i owned my craft, I didn’t say I’m not sure of what to say or I’ve only been writing for a year, i said yes—i would love to speak.
Although there’s a level of competence that comes with confidence but when you reach that level, there’s no going back.
I can attest to my designing, i’m a fairly good graphics designer but I haven’t done enough designs to reach that level of competence. So anytime someone asks me if I design, i say i try instead of owning my craft, but the more I’ll design the more I’ll reach that level of competence.
Same thing with my photography, i take pictures with my phone, one is I didn’t let “I don’t have a camera” stop me and two, the barrier is only in your mind. I realized that i had the ability to imagine beautiful shots in my head, same with designs and i took that inspiration and ran with it.
Now I’ve called myself a photographer, I’ve owned my craft.
So anytime I want to take a picture, I don’t think “what if it’s going to come out bad,” i think “i am a photographer and sometimes you take bad shots, sometimes you take good shots but either way—i’m still a photographer” People are successful not only because of their skills, but because of their confidence.
You are not competing with anyone neither are you comparing yourself.
The man who wins is the man who thinks he can.
If you want to be successful, you must think that you can be successful.
It’s all in the mind, it always has.
People don’t know how much you can accomplish by just thinking about things and taking action.
The Difference Between You And That Person At The Top is SELF BELIEF.
If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.
Read this as many times as you require to develop the mindset to attack your goals Next Year.
Technically next year is just another day but if it makes you feel better, think of it as another chapter.
Another chance to become who you were always meant to be.
I believe in you.
This might be my last post for the year, unless i get inspired to write again.
Sundays are always serene.
In that note this is farewell but not farewell.
My name is Joba Adewumi, and I inspire you to be the best.
Take the journey with me as we explore the human condition.

A deep letter of Inspiration

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 00:00:00 GMT

Moments where you just sit down and question your reality.
Look back at all the decisions you’ve made, ask yourself what are you doing wrong.
I question reality every single day, is it a problem or am i just built differently.
Did God look at me and say you have a special purpose, because i feel like i have one.
Anytime i wake up i feel i have something to do, days where i doom scroll i feel bad, like this is not what I’m made for.
I’ve been feeling like this for a while, that i have a special calling, special purpose bigger than me.
The purpose to inspire, the purpose to create something every single day.
The purpose to tell everyone that is lost that there is a way and you can actually be someone important and worthwhile during your short time on this floating rock.
So every day i wake up, anything I’m doing i try to put my best because I believe i have something to prove.
I need to stake my claim on this earth that i came, and I didn’t just go like everyone else, normal, unremarkable.
I came and I took what was available, I created abundantly.
Not for a few days or months, but for decades and aeons.
To show who came before and who came after that i did what every man dreamt of but couldn’t achieve because of fear or other causes.
That i am a man that dreamt and achieved.
I will make this claim not only for the glory of God or personal glory, but for every man to know and understand that anything that can be thought of can be achieved.
And i would not be remembered as a common man, JB, or Joba.
But as a man that wrote his deepest fears and hopes, not for glory, but for inspiration.

The Existential Feeling to Create

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I sit down sometimes(mostly when I’m bored) and i just feel the need to say something.
That existential feeling to create something that impacts people, that people read or hear.
The good feeling that comes with people interacting with your creations.
And it just feels like I’m disconnected, I haven’t recorded a podcast episode in 5 months, i keep reminding myself to record but I’m not just feeling it.
It was at this point that i realized, I’ve burnt out.
You look into this world, everyone wants to be heard and seen, some more than others.
We care so much about external validation and opinions.
Sometimes you feel like you’re not doing anything important, you’re wasting your life. You feel that way because you’re not getting feedback for a job well done.
No one is telling you that you’re doing a good job or they noticed your effort somewhere.
We as humans have attached our reward system to external factors.
Use this as a metric moving forward, you have a goal or a job to do, plan it out and execute. Once you have done that job to the best of your ability, no matter how it turns out, good or bad. Know that you tried your best and that’s what matters.
You go again tomorrow.
I could identify that one of the main reasons of my burnout was the constant focus on the external, feeling the need to put something out there but couldn’t focus.
It depleted my energy.
How did i snap out of the burnout so quick? Music.
It wasn’t music per se, but the appreciation for human creativity and creation.
Just listening to another human being with his flaws and fears release his intellectual property to the world without fear or compromise.
It was really inspiring and it made me remember about the mantra;
No competition, just creation.
It really gives you the motivation and cements the idea that as long as you’re alive, do not be afraid to create, do not be afraid to produce and do not be afraid to inspire.
But for me i’m curious.
After you read this, what are you going to create?
Let the world know that you are a creator.
Do not hesitate to create.
I’m rooting for you.

Is 3 Years of Character development a waste?

Sun, 15 Oct 2023 00:00:00 GMT

It is one thing to write from the heart, it is another thing to write from a deadline. In the beginning i was writing from the heart, every post was unique, until i continued writing because i wanted to be consistent.
It is good to be consistent, but not when the quality suffers.
To write such think pieces i have to be in a certain frame of mind and i can say i have not been there in a while.
When you sit down and observe the world, a lot of things make sense and a lot of things fall into place. You start to realize that things or events or people you hold in such high esteem it just a fallacy.
You reach this high level of reasoning where you understand that nothing will make you fulfilled in this life except from pure purpose, that one goal that governs your life, reasoning and actions.
I figured this out three years ago, and every action i have taken has led me here today, i took persistent action in trying to be the best version of myself, trying to develop the best character possible.
During the process i have lost and gained friends, experienced life defining moments, experimented different character traits and personalities, that was when i discovered that i have two personality traits myself. The quiet and observant and the lively and friendly.
Do you develop new charcacter traits when you work on yourself or do you just extend and mature your existing traits?
I would say both, but leaning towards the latter.
During my pondering i realized that i am still the same Joba, same quiet and lively personality traits but i have extended them.
I think differently and act differently but i am still the same Joba, just different.
You never really understand something until you experience it.
That is why they say people don't change. And you can learn a lot about a person from the mistakes they have made in the past.
I noticed that things i have done before, if i am put to the test again i might not do it, but i will consider it.
Character development is very essential.
One character trait that would help you in life is self-confidence.
Because if you want to accomplish your dreams you have to believe in yourself because no one else will, and they don't need to. After all it is your dream.
You have to be willing to make your own route and go on your own lonely journey. Doesn't mean you cannout have friends that have the same vision as you.
Understand that it is just you and your purpose.
I am up by 2am because i have a purpose to share the knowledge i gain.
What is your purpose and how much are you willing to sacrifice for it?

Life is a lot bigger than it seems

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 00:00:00 GMT

It is so easy to get worked up on minor setbacks, something you planned didn't work out, lost an oppurtunity or if you're like me, trying to fix a bug for the past 6 hours.
Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, you turn a very beautiful day into a moody one because someone offended, do you know those kind of people? You just can't chill with them because they can't let things go.
There is something i recently understood, it's that wins come with losses, it is either you gain something in exchange for loosing something or you win now so you can loose later.
It is quite ironic right, we win to loose, but that is the balance in life.
One thing i also observed is that loosing is a good thing too, not only the lessons you learn from them but the emotional roller coaster, of course it doesn't feel good to loose in the moment but it's a balance that you need.
The best way to remain happy is to accept the wins and the losses together, people can't stay happy because they only accept the wins, never come to terms with the losses. Just like enjoying the sunshine but getting mad when rain falls, it's not sustainable.
Sometimes i get sad or just in an observing mood when i don't get traction on my post, newsletter or podcast episodes, but one thing i always neglect is that 1 person that liked or listened.
For a person or two people to like what you put out there, read or listen to your content, it is quite a big deal. Social media just makes it seem like if you are not getting 10k or 100k then you are not doing anything important.
It’s the little things that matters.
So from today on, i would not let the numbers or engagements sway me, as long as one person listens or reads, that is the person i am doing it for. And i hope you do the same.
You need to understand that where you start from does not always determine where you would end up and start with what you have.
I can use my podcast as an example.
I started the podcast last year, May 8, didn't release an episode till Sep 23. I did a couple of improvements and had a bit of traction but where i faltered was the beginning of the year, i had some unreleased episodes that i did not like the way they sounded, completely ignoring the fact that the content quality was far more important than how it sounded.
So i told myself now that i am going to continue regardless of how bad it sounds, I would release all the unreleased episodes and start fresh on a clean slate.
If you are like me and have unreleased content or products because you are afraid of judgement or you feel it is not ready yet, push it out now. There is never a best time for anything.
I have been having 18 hour workdays for the past month, no time to chill or even watch a movie, keep in mind that i planned this by myself, when i had the idea of pure work and focus, it was inspiring, now that i am living it, still inspiring? not so much.
But i am loosing sight of the bigger picture, anyone would trade places, people would love to be in my shoes but me that is wearing the shoe is still questioning the color.
Keep it pushing, you would notice this trend, look back at your life, to the times where it felt like you wouldn't make it or you would not scale through. If you can look back at those times, you can come to the conclusion that you would always be fine, no matter the outcome.
Anytime you're frustrated or you just recieved a massive L, zoom out and look at the bigger picture.
Life is a lot bigger than it seems.

Ponder on this

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 00:00:00 GMT

So I'm just dropping a short piece for the week.
Remaining four months this year, how do you wish to spend them?
Still procrastinating? Or are you going to get to work?
You are having dreams and fantasies of this spectacular life you want to live, all you have to do is just go and get it.
Put one foot in front of the other and push on.
Keep pushing, pushing through setbacks and adversities, pushing through negative opinions and hearsay.
I am personally dedicating the last four months of the year to pursue my goals, dreams, my purpose and the vision of the life I want to live without distractions.
What are you going to dedicate your last four months to?
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Life will go on without you

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 00:00:00 GMT

You're dressing up to an occasion and you are planning on wearing a T-shirt that you haven't worn before, you're in a dilemma, you ask your friend "Is the T-shirt good?"
In one timeline he's like "yeah, it's a good fit!"
Another timeline he's like "bruh, you're going to be the joke of the night."
You would say that a person with enough self confidence will do it either way, right?
I would say that everyone cares to a certain extent what the world says about them.
I mean you could see this and tell yourself that you never cared what anyone said and you were always your own person.
Social acceptance is part of human nature.
You cannot be completely numb to caring about opinions, but you could care less.
Someone asked me a question, what would you do if I died?
My reply?
I would mourn you for a year or two, be sad about it, cry, and do remembrance for you every year.
And every year that goes by the remembrance gets smaller and smaller until it's just seeing the date you died and saying RIP.
Life will go on, I would get over it, live a happy life, make beautiful memories and die.
Same thing goes for me and same thing goes for everyone.
If people would forget you so easily, why do you care so much?
Do what you love, people are going to say things and that's fine, care less.
I try to remind myself when I'm getting cold feet that nobody cares, if I embarrass myself or get rejected people would forget it in a month.
And truly, nobody cares what you do.
I tell myself nobody cares.
What would you tell yourself?
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.
Want to discuss? Send me an email or yell at me on twitter - jobaadewumis@gmail.com @jbtheinspirer

What do you want out of life?

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I have experienced great losses these past months, but I have also experienced massive wins, life changing events that make their mark on your psyche for eternity.
To have the opportunity to experience breathtaking events (both good and bad), it is something spectacular.
Just imagine a word someone said to you or something you saw dictating your life's actions the next 20 years.
No matter what we do, or how small we think we are, we are impacting someone one way or another.
A lot of people are influenced by what they see on social media, most people want their lives to be like that celebrity or musician.
But you've never asked yourself, what do you really want out of life?
I know your automatic response will be let me just get money and I'll be alright.
But like reaching higher positions and having social status, it doesn't really last on the life fulfilment bar.
Everyone has that certain thing that your soul draws you to, could be creations, could be music or art, the possibilities are endless.
But once you don't satisfy your souls endless desire for purpose, your life would just be a rat race.
Chasing one thing after the other.
Ask yourself, what do I want out of life, not what others want or are getting, what do I truly want?
I hope that this piece has a special place in your heart and I hope my thoughts resonate with you.
Want to discuss? Send me an email or yell at me on twitter - jobaadewumis@gmail.com @jbtheinspirer

If you're tired, read this

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT

We've all been in that situation where nothing makes sense, nothing is going in your way and you're receiving losses everywhere.
Such is life.
But in all those bad situations is a glimmer of hope, that feeling that it'll all make sense in the end, and it will.
I recently overcame my shyness and I'm very proud of myself, when you cross the bridge you realize that everything you've been fearing doesn't even matter or exist.
So why are you so afraid of opening up to the world?
Holding yourself from the beauty of life, that's no such way to live.
INSTEAD OF LOOKING FOR MOTIVATION, BE THAT MOTIVATION
I recently came across a figure who has eventually become a good friend of mine and mentor, Danny Maine, look him up on socials, pretty chill dude.
And he was one variable in my enlightenment of leaving the shy life, there was something he said that I've held on to and I want you to hold on to, he said "The most popular programmer is not the smartest or the richest but the one with the most confidence, and with confidence you have influence".
Read that again.
Confidence in yourself and in your work is what differentiates you from everyone else, it is what gives you influence and people can listen to you for days.
Be that person of influence for other people, be their glimmer of hope.
The most beautiful life, is a life of service.
Anytime you get tired, remember the people who listen to you daily, who expect greatness from you, people that as you impact them you learn something.
Be that person that gets tired but stands up the next day.
Those are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Why purpose is important in life

Sat, 01 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I always knew purpose was so important but people always debated the meaning of true purpose with me.
Their idea was money and material substances, my idea was something endless that fills that existential hole in your heart.
A purpose of bringing a smile to people's faces or inventing things are good ways to spend your life because it's endless.
There would always be a person that needs a smile and a need for new inventions.
That's true purpose.
I recently saw one of the people debating with me about purpose, I looked at him, his aura, I looked into his eyes and I could see the meaningless in him.
That was what drew me to write this piece.
There are people out here who lack true purpose, it's okay if you haven't discovered yours, as long as you're searching for the right thing.
You can feel true purpose in your gut, you know that this is achieving your grand potential.
Also your purpose dictates your action in life, if you are money oriented, everything you do would relate to money and so on.
Work is meaningless if it's not important.
Life is pointless if you're not using it for something.
You have to find that thing that brings a spark to your soul.
My purpose is to inspire you to be the best version of yourself, hence my podcast and my newsletters, I also want to create important things that touch people's lives.
That's my purpose.
What is yours?
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

What is so important about Consistency?

Sun, 25 Jun 2023 00:00:00 GMT

We live in a world where you see something and you want it, nobody wants to work for what they want and they certainly don't want to wait.
But if we are being realistic (which we need to be all the time), if you really want something you have to wait it out.
Good things take time.
Good relationships take time, good skills take time to get the hang of but people don't want to wait.
It's like we have become so impatient, but what's so hard to wait.

THATS WHERE CONSISTENCY COMES IN

To be very good at something you have to be consistent with it, doing it time and time again.
If I want to be a good writer(I feel I'm getting there slowly😂) I have to show up every week with a new piece, constantly learning from each writing and from multiple failures and criticism I eventually become a good writer.
I didn't become a good writer only because I was heeding to criticism and learned from my mistakes.
I became a good writer because I was consistent with it.
Constantly improving with every piece.
I've been programming for 3 years now, I didn't become good only because I was smart.
I was consistent with my learning.
Show up everyday, show up for yourself everyday and show up for what's important everyday.
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

What is the meaning of life?

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 00:00:00 GMT

Just moving around, doing what everyone is doing, aimless movements and decisions.
We as humans have something beautiful called consciousness, and our psyche likes to wonder deep in thought, not the kind of where did I drop my phone thought, what am I doing with my life thoughts, deep and existential thoughts.
I think a lot, and to baseless people it means I'm an overthinker or I'm depressed but to me I'm an intellectual person pondering on the full depth of the human comprehension of existence itself.
I know a lot of big grammar. Basically I think about what ordinary people don't think about, I observe what ordinary people don't observe and I understand what ordinary people don't understand.
I haven't written a piece in over a week, I have learned from my podcast that if I force the creativity I won't enjoy it, so I've always been waiting for the perfect sober moment, which of course doesn't come.
So it's more of discipline and soberness that pens this everytime.
We all have those deep points of emptiness and emotionless moments, when you know that this is isn't mere surface feelings.
You yearn for more, you understand that you are capable of human excellence, so why am I stuck here? Why am I doing this? I don't even like it! That's the force that pushes all of us to be the best we could be, that's the force that pushes my curiosity and it's the force communicating with you too.
If you checked this out then you are probably curious too, what is the meaning of your life? I can't give you a definitive answer, everyone's meaning is different, but when you start to look within and pursue those things you love, you would eventually come to your answer.
Not at the end of a bottle of whiskey, but at a seminar speaking to a thousand people, creating that beautiful product that changes lives, crafting beautiful melodies, mixing colors to create beautiful masterpieces, human excellence! That's the meaning of life, that's the answer to everything.
What would you use your time on earth for? What is the meaning of your own life?
Those are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Why I don't keep it anymore

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I have a podcast where I would have 5 unreleased episodes and I would schedule them to release at random dates, in my mind I was keeping it for the right time.
But sooner or later you'll realize that there's no right time, so in my mind I decided that when I have something to share that could help someone, I would share it without hesitation.
As I wrote in my last piece, I was a very shy person, but not anymore and I would be thinking in my mind "What if no one listens to this or reads it?" But I've actually realized that no matter how it seems that no one cares about what you do, it would come to light one day, and that's certain.
You have something in the works but you're afraid no one would like it, let it out, you'll never know the opportunities that lie ahead, never doubt yourself.
You have to think you can do it before you do it, if you think you're a good writer you would eventually become one.
You must walk with confidence in life, because it's not how things actually are, it's how they seem.
Walk tall, defend your creation and don't be afraid to release it.
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Live now, die later

Sat, 20 May 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I'm an ambivert, and I'm sure many of you reading this might relate to what I'm saying.
I never really thought about my shyness until I had to confront it recently.
I was asked the question on the spot, "Are you shy?" And like every other person, I would lie to myself and I replied "No, of course not!" But I took a seat and asked myself the question again, am I actually shy? Now this question and what followed after it has defined my life up to this moment, like I said, ask the important questions.
I stared into myself and said the truth, came to the conclusion that I was shy, now I didn't sulk about it but carried the idea in my head that I could work on it.
Now fast forward a few months and I'm tasked to do something a shy person would consider suicide, cold approach people.
I found it very hard to do it, but there were people around me and it made it so much easier.
To the point where I subconsciously call myself out if I'm being shy, what I noticed was that if you want to approach someone, I would think about it so much to the extent that I would find a reason not to approach the person.
So I made a rule that if I see someone and I want to approach the person I would make the decision in less than 3 seconds, do it or let it go.
Now I can say it that this week has been the most introspective week of my entire conscious life because of what I learned and because of what I felt.
There are certain things you feel when you come to a realization so beautiful that you can't express with words, it just can't be explained but you'll know when you feel it.
I haven't written in about 4 days, because to write pieces so inspiring like this you have to be completely sober and introspective, I came across this song "Allowed to be happy by Gustavo Santaolalla" and this song touches your soul right in the core, I played the song on repeat throughout the course of writing this piece and I can tell you that I shed a tear everytime I repeat it.
I learned from a friend that contacts are important and you need to socialize, you need to leave your comfort zone.
You need to experience what the world has to offer.
When I was socializing and talking to people, hanging with strangers that have become friends, I was truly happy, I asked myself, could I live life like this everyday? And I came to the conclusion that I could, and you could too.
Talk to that friend, forgive them, savor the moment, appreciate human creativity, observe the world, take a deep breath, stare into your soul, and your soul would whisper back to you....
Live now, die later.
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Who would you be in 5 years?

Mon, 01 May 2023 00:00:00 GMT

We have plans for the day, goals for the week or month, yearly resolutions but we seldom have plans for 2, 3 even 5 years.
I guess we live in a generation where everyone wants it now.
You go on social media and you see people doing good and automatically you want what they have, what someone used 10 years to get you want to use 6 months, it doesn't work that way.
Nobody wants to delay gratification anymore, it's either now or never.
People forget that and do horrendous things for money or pleasure, forgetting that it's going to come back to get you sooner rather than later.
Why not delay gratification till you actually deserve it? Social media makes you feel like you're worthless, like delaying everything would never matter because you'll never make it.
And that's not true, I used to feel that way too, I had to leave social media just for me to see the bigger picture.
That we are all thriving and rarely do people attain success the moment they start.
You see all the popular actors and musicians and athletes but you don't see how long it took them before they got an audition, before they got people to play their songs, before they qualified for that event.
Everyone has their own journey, slow or fast I can't say for sure.
But what I can say is if you plan to be someone or somewhere in the next five years, put the work in.
You might not get there but sure as hell you'll be close.
Just imagine you're a writer or you have a YouTube channel with 5 subscribers, now imagine you released content consistently, trying to improve with each one for the next 5 years and tell me if you don't see human excellence.
Are you going to think long-term or are you going to think short-term? Now that's for you to decide.
These are my thoughts, I hope they resonate with you.

Sometimes it's going to be shit and that's okay

Sat, 15 Apr 2023 00:00:00 GMT

You're a creator, maybe a musician, all your songs aren't going to be hot stuff and that's alright.
I have a podcast where I talk about life and that's what inspired me to write this peace because I'm at a crossroad where I feel what I'm creating and what I want to create are not connecting, and honestly I'm not feeling it and that's okay.
You cannot win everyday, and definitely you won't lose everyday.
So I believe if you're always grinding and always creating you'll eventually get your form.
And I feel one of the reasons is because I'm not doing it when I'm in tune, it's like I'm forcing myself and then when I want to edit the podcast I don't like what I hear.
So you need to be in tune with your creative process, if you're a slow person then do it slow, if you're fast then do it fast. Just don't force the creativity because you won't like the outcome.
One of the reasons I was rushing was the pressure I created in my head to come out with a new podcast episode and that's what scattered it for me.

Ninety percent of your problems are the ones created in your head

This goes beyond creations, if you're having a bad day, it doesn't mean tommorow will be bad too so don't give up.
The person who never lost is the person that never stopped
These are my thoughts, I hope it resonates with you.

Not all opinions matter

Sat, 01 Apr 2023 00:00:00 GMT

There's a saying that you do not take advice from someone on the sidelines, and the same principle goes for everything else.
Do not take relationship advice from someone that isn't in a relationship, now you might say that the person can use past experiences to give you advice which is valid but you don't want to listen and execute like it's some set of instructions.
You must filter the advice of anyone, regardless of their experience to make sure that it works for you.
You read a self-development book, you do not live your life like the book says page by page, but filter it and see what aspect works for you. You must be able to think for yourself.
"Bro I don't like your shoe", alright but if you like the shoe, then who cares.
Wear it everyday till you get tired, it's your legs.
Don't let opinions of people shape your life, it's not that you shouldn't listen or ponder on factual opinions, but don't let it control your life.

How I'm feeling today

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 00:00:00 GMT

I watched the final episodes of the last season of succession and I could say It didn't end the way I wanted it to, got me emotional and in deep thought and I could say that I learned quite a lot from the plot, I would like to share it with you all and why it resonates with me deeply.
Spoiler alert (Possibly)
I learned that life is short and you should cherish everyone, live everyday like it was your last, I'm not saying you should spend your savings but open your heart to the warmth of the world and open your mind to the possibilities of what could be.
I learned that all the choices you make in this life has consequences, good or bad, big or small, there's always a consequence attached to it so make sure that you're making the best decisions to your ability.
Put limited trust in everyone, people can switch up in an instant, gosh even family can switch up in an instant! Life is a battle ground, the sooner you know the better, everything is a game and you're either a player or you're a NPC(Non playable character) you are either going to fuck someone up or get fucked up, so which one are you going to do?
I could write 50 pages on how money can improve your life and help you but money would not remove that existential hole in your heart, money will never fill that spot of your divine purpose.
Get money, millions of dollars, as much as you want but never for a moment think that it will make you whole.
The thing about life is that it's always going to be you and you at the end of the day.
You host a party, you have a great time with friends and family but when it's all said and done, you're going to sleep in an empty house with just you and your mind.
So you should be your best friend, not Damilola or James, you are your number 1, the sooner you make peace with yourself the better you can make peace with the world.
Do not underestimate people and the value of friendship, of connections, of relationships.
Do not look down on someone because you know more or you're doing better or in a good position, be humble because things come as fast as they go, you either humble yourself or God humbles you and you don't want to know which one's worse.
Be genuine friends with people, see the good in others, believe in their goals and dreams and they will believe in yours.
If you want to have something you must first give it.
If you want to be in a good relationship with a good partner, you must first be a good partner.
If you want people to work for you, you must first work for someone.
It's called earning your stripes.
Learn to be open to new experiences and new ideas, understand that decisions have consequences, life is a battle and you must be prepared, money is beautiful but it won't make you whole, to be good friends with people you must first be good friends with yourself, and cultivate beautiful relationships.
I hope this resonates with you. These are my thoughts, I hope you learn something from them.

Do the hard tasks

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 00:00:00 GMT

You wake up in the morning, do you plan your day or do you carry your phone? You have an important job to do but you're scrolling on your phone.
The thing about life is that if you don't do the task, someone will do it for you.
Understand that you can easily be replaced.
You see people doing important things and creating stuff and you wonder why you're stagnant, it's because they do the hard tasks.
Although luck plays a role in someone's success, you can't just be sitting down idle and stumble on a job opportunity.
You have to be actively looking for a job to be that lucky.
Now the thing is that luck is playing a role in people's lives but they are only lucky if they are doing the work.
So you need to step up and do the important tasks because you are the main character in your success story.
Doing the important and hard tasks seperates you from other people.
Everybody runs away from difficult things but every beautiful thing you see in this world is a result of sweat and stress and hard work.
Remove your mind from the randomness of the world and get to work.
I had two options, should I sleep or should I sit down and write my thoughts.
And you already know what I did.
What are you going to do?

What are you thinking about?

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 00:00:00 GMT

As easy as it sounds it turns out that what you fill your mind with, what you think about is what you would eventually become.
So in your mind you're like Joba if it's like that then if I think about a million dollars I'm going to get it right? Right?! Well yeah, but no at the same time.
Thinking about what you want to achieve is the first step and the most crucial, now that you've thought about the money you need to work to get the money.
Dreams without goals are just dreams, goals without actions are just goals. Not only do you need to think about being successful, you need to go out and work for it.
There's this quote I would like to share and I hope it resonates with you.
"Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man, but soon or later the man who wins is the man who thinks he can”
Of course you have to put your effort but do you think you can?

Ask the important questions

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:00:00 GMT

We get annoyed that we missed our appointment, get upset when someone says something you don't like, get irritated when you don't like something but you never ask the important question. Why? Why are you annoyed? Why are you upset? Why are you irritated? That's the question we should be asking ourselves.
When you ask yourself the important questions you get to the root of issues by getting an important answer everytime.
Someone says my nose is big, everytime I get called out for having a big nose I get upset and lash out, but one day I didn't want to get upset anymore, I wanted to leave that behind.
And the next time someone told me that I have a big nose I didn't get upset like I used to and I asked myself why? Why am I getting upset that I'm being called out for having a big nose?
From asking that simple question your brain goes deep to actually find out why you're getting upset, you remember people mocking you when you were younger, but no it's deeper than that, your brain goes deeper until you see that the root cause of the emotions was the time when you were younger and your crush said you have a big nose.
And that's what made me insecure about the nose ever since. From that realization you can decide that you know the truth, am I going to keep getting upset or am I going to let it go and understand that no one is perfect.
Who would you be?