Life is a lot bigger than it seems

It is so easy to get worked up on minor setbacks, something you planned didn’t work out, lost an oppurtunity or if you’re like me, trying to fix a bug for the past 6 hours.

Sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us, you turn a very beautiful day into a moody one because someone offended, do you know those kind of people? You just can’t chill with them because they can’t let things go.

There is something i recently understood, it’s that wins come with losses, it is either you gain something in exchange for loosing something or you win now so you can loose later.

It is quite ironic right, we win to loose, but that is the balance in life.

One thing i also observed is that loosing is a good thing too, not only the lessons you learn from them but the emotional roller coaster, of course it doesn’t feel good to loose in the moment but it’s a balance that you need.

The best way to remain happy is to accept the wins and the losses together, people can’t stay happy because they only accept the wins, never come to terms with the losses. Just like enjoying the sunshine but getting mad when rain falls, it’s not sustainable.

Sometimes i get sad or just in an observing mood when i don’t get traction on my post, newsletter or podcast episodes, but one thing i always neglect is that 1 person that liked or listened.

For a person or two people to like what you put out there, read or listen to your content, it is quite a big deal. Social media just makes it seem like if you are not getting 10k or 100k then you are not doing anything important.

It’s the little things that matters.

So from today on, i would not let the numbers or engagements sway me, as long as one person listens or reads, that is the person i am doing it for. And i hope you do the same.

You need to understand that where you start from does not always determine where you would end up and start with what you have.

I can use my podcast as an example.

I started the podcast last year, May 8, didn’t release an episode till Sep 23. I did a couple of improvements and had a bit of traction but where i faltered was the beginning of the year, i had some unreleased episodes that i did not like the way they sounded, completely ignoring the fact that the content quality was far more important than how it sounded.

So i told myself now that i am going to continue regardless of how bad it sounds, I would release all the unreleased episodes and start fresh on a clean slate.

If you are like me and have unreleased content or products because you are afraid of judgement or you feel it is not ready yet, push it out now. There is never a best time for anything.

I have been having 18 hour workdays for the past month, no time to chill or even watch a movie, keep in mind that i planned this by myself, when i had the idea of pure work and focus, it was inspiring, now that i am living it, still inspiring? not so much.

But i am loosing sight of the bigger picture, anyone would trade places, people would love to be in my shoes but me that is wearing the shoe is still questioning the color.

Keep it pushing, you would notice this trend, look back at your life, to the times where it felt like you wouldn’t make it or you would not scale through. If you can look back at those times, you can come to the conclusion that you would always be fine, no matter the outcome.

Anytime you’re frustrated or you just recieved a massive L, zoom out and look at the bigger picture.

Life is a lot bigger than it seems.