Resist the urge to ghost

I’ve been feeling like I want to ghost lately, for a while it’s been lingering within me, 6-7 months.

Today I finally faced the urge, “where am I disappearing to?” I asked myself.

It made me realize that ghosting is not how it seems, as I talked about it in my podcast episode “The Realization.”

On the episode I talked about how most of our actions are pandered to people’s opinions.

I spoke to Dozie earlier about feeling sad, why do people have to announce their sadness?

Post about it or talk about it.

Sometimes when people feel sad and they share it, they don’t necessarily need you to solve their problems or issue, they just want someone to hear them out, make them feel like they aren’t alone, like someone can relate and understand the feeling.

When you know someone can understand the way you are feeling, it makes you feel better.

Same way you are more composed when you realize your friend group is as blank as you are for a test, the feeling outspreads when you realize it’s the whole class who’s as blank as you are.

That’s the basis of human interactions, relating and understanding.

It goes back to the main question, why do you need to ghost? Because if you really feel like disappearing, you would.

So why has this feeling been lingering for months within me, it was really not the ghosting, but the longing need for people to understand and relate to my struggles and strife.

The grind, the stress, the sacrifices.

Sometimes some people feel like the only way people will understand your hustle is if you disappear and reappear some other time like “bro, where have you been, it’s been a while.”

It’s sounds cliché but there’s some truth to it.

Sometimes people ghost because they need to get their shit together.

There was a time i was having a rough patch, i didn’t even think about ghosting, i just disappeared for a year.

Blank dp and all.

That was before i had something to share. If you keep premeditating it within you, then you really don’t need to ghost.

I was reading the Daily Stoic, and something really stood out to me.

I was pondering on it, people that actually push p, create the narratives of life, how many of them ghost, disappear years on end?

For me I really can’t afford to ghost when i have a lot of things to say and share, pictures, podcasts, videos.

I can’t keep them to myself, i have to share this knowledge for people that need it.

The core of The Daily Stoic are quotes from philosophers, the reason why the book was able to be created was because the writings of these philosophers lived on.

If i take beautiful pictures and never share them, who is going to see the beauty of the world? Same thing for the podcast, who is going to hear that knowledge i never shared?

Ghosting is something you would like to avoid if you have something to share, and a lot of people have something to say or share to the world.

Instead of being inspired all the time, be inspirational too.

Share your thoughts and ideas to people, let it live on.

When you look back at it or look at the world right now, everything that has been created, the books we read, films we watch, music we listen to, were from people’s ideas.

They felt something and they weren’t afraid to share it.

As stupid as it may seem, dumb as it may sound.

If you tap into the mindset that what you share is contributing to the world, to be consumed in years or centuries.

Remember that if you truly create something that you like, trust me, there are millions of people that like it too, they haven’t discovered you yet.

Keep pushing, keep creating.